I don't want this person in my life. What can I do?

A female age 41-50, *likenight writes:

I was going out with my ex for 5 yrs. (I'll call him Matt)When we 1st met, he was 22 and I was 19. I was in a relationship when I met him, but it was coming to it's end and the guy was really mean to me. So when I met Matt, he was soo nice to me, and he was in college, and said he'd be finished in 2 yrs. So I was like "wow, he's got a future". I wanted to marry him..After we were together for over a yr. I made him get his 1st job (he was 24) and it was a low paying job but I wanted to move out of my mom's b/c she was always with jerks and they were always staying with us at my mom's. Matt said he quit the job b/c they were treating him badly. Long story short, he could Never hold a job, I'd find out he was lying abt. why he lost his jobs, he'd get fired for doing smth. stupid, and he'd lie and tell me he was laid off b/c it was slow. He's a realy Momma's boy. He never did end up finishing college, and he'd always tell me he passed a class, but when I hacked into his college website, I saw that he'd failed classes and when I confronted him he got mad. He started being physically and mentally abusive toward me. He was always in a bad mood, and he'd call me names at the drop of a hat. He never did anything to help around the house, never did anything at all, for ex. he wouldn't even order a pizza, he'd always make me do it. He was laid off for 8 months one time, and I was paying all our bills. I ended up getting into credit card debt just to buy us groceries. We did live together but it was always a struggle b/c he'd always be out of work. It was a constant string of let-downs. I realized I wasn't getting any younger. I ended up hooking up with his friend last year and we since have had a baby together. We're happy, I am a stay at home mom...he pays the bills. I just don't know what to do b/c Matt keeps emailing me, texting me, calling me, writing me on Myspace...My brother even called and threatened him a cpl. times and told him to leave me the heck alone. He just won't stop..He says he just wants to be friends and that he misses talking to me, and the dogs miss me (we had 2 dogs together). I don't want any part of it. I tried being friends with him, and he keyed my boyfriend's car when he met me and ripped up my WIC folder. So I do not trust him. I even called his mom and told her everything he's done and that I want him to leave me alone. He even threatened to get a court order for me to get a paternity test on my baby, even though he knew there was no way it could been his. So I got 1 just in hopes he'd leave my family alone but he won't. I'd get a restraining order on him but he isn't threatening me, he just won't stop contacting me and saying he wants to "be friends" which I know is a lie. What can I do? I want him out of my life totally. And why, after I had his friend's baby would he still be after me? We broke up over a yr. ago. I've tried giving him the benefit of the doubt b/c I felt sorry for him so I would still talk to him but he'd always be really nice to me at first, then he would either do something violent or just start calling me names and saying my baby was going to be a maggoty mutant baby. So I don't want this person in my life. What can I do?

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