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writes: I'm an 'only child' in my early twenties and do not have parents anymore.To be honest looking back at life I've been successful in my studies and currently progressing quite well in my career.It makes me happy to know that I made it, with lot of hard work. I know I've always done my parents proud and have no regrets on that matter.Although I'm very independent,I have very deep feelings which I don't wanna share with any of my close friends or BF. I tend to depend a lot on my BF, I don't know if it's the need for love or what. But I just need him so much.Would u believe, when he's rude to me I don't even talk back coz I'm so scared that he'll drift away. After every minor matter,I tend to worry heaps imagining that he'll drift away, somethings that he wouldn't even spend a minute worrying about:) This whole emotional problem of mine sometimes annoys him as well.I like to be loved although I put a strong show to the world. Fair enough he has his career, life etc: Sometimes I feel that I give in too much.I'm scared to talk about my emotions coz I feel he'll get annoyed and once or twice it happened. He explained to me that I'm grown enough to accept that the situation won't change however much I cry.After all, he has been very supportive in times of need and been there for me, we are even planning of marriage.I don't want these emotional issues of mine to upset the whole rhythm of our relationship. I really want him and if I lose him, I might even die, coz he's all I have now. Just all.I do my very best to be a good GF and to make him happy.Why do I feel so insecure and worry nights and nights if he doesn't call imagining he's annoyed with me or something.I trust him but something makes me feel so insecure and worried...I miss having parents and it's very lonely.Should I worry about my BF 24hours per day.What's the meaning of this.I'm strong in every aspect of life but not in love.It's my weak point.After all he's only my BF and will never be a parent.He's human too with the right to get irritated and annoyed....Pls help... I wanna have a happy marriage and not get affected over everything....
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reader, want2die +, writes (14 December 2006):
 You need to TALK.. Get your fears over with, your feelings sorted out. Do it .. Talk to him about your worries, ask him if he is committed to you and tell him how much you love him..When you have a problem, talk it out instead of worrying over it alone. You will feel better that way. Even if he does get annoyed, dont worry.. It is just a part and parcel of love. If he really loves you, he will come back to you, wont let such petty things bother him.
It may also be , you are outting in too much n this relationship. In turn, he may be taking you for granted at times, leaving you with that feeling of insecurity. Try to give him some space, and try getting a few friends you can hang out with, share your thoughts with.
I have gone through this very phase myself , and have still not sorted it out..But this looks like the best course to me .. Good luck to u and me :)
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