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30-35,
*ssiram710
writes:My boyfriend wants to go into the military! He just turned 21 and we have been dating for a year. This bothers me A LOT! I'm pretty sure my past has a lot to do with it, my dad left me and my family when I was 16 for another woman. And shortly after my dad left I dated the WRONG guy. He abused me mentally, and emotionally, he was all lies. After 8 months, he left for the air force and was married straight out of boot camp (so he had been dating me and his ex for who knows how long). This really messed me up in every kind of way. But now I am madly in love with my boyfriend, We are a perfect match as says EVERYONE! Just hearing the word military makes me get really upset because I don't want him to leave too. He keeps telling me that things will work out. That I will be in school getting my stuff done while he gets his stuff done. He says he is doing this for us so we can have a better future. I have not been very supportive, I have even told him I wouldn't do it. I have said that if he loves me he wouldn't expect me to have to watch him go. I don't think I could handle not seeing the love of my life but once every 6 months. :( But at the same time I know this would be good for him because he will be able to go to school which is what he wants. Also, he has said that if I love him I would support him because he has always supported me. So with all this background information, I hope someone can help me find a solution. Please please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): dont blame you it will ever work different breeds of people nthing but heartache
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Which Branch of the Military? The Marines have terrible people in them, drinking, cheating people who only care about themselves not a good place for love, the Army can do 16 month deployments, the Navy has shore patrol and sea patrol, it switches off, if he goes navy and his sea patrol he will be on a boat for a long time. its hard to have long distance relationships, but if your love is strong anything will work out.
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