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writes:I'm married and have been for seven months. I used to like this one guy. And he cheated on his gf with me (this is notthe guy that I am married to.) This happened two years ago. Well, I havebeen trying to tell her about certain incidents involving me and him, butshe doesn't want to believe me. She thinks that I am trying to get her man.I don't know why I took so long to tell her certain things.It pisses me off, cos I don't want her man. He's told her the truth beforeabout certain things, but now is lying about certain other things, and shetrusts him because of his previous truthfulness before. Then her big sis, a Wiccan, messages me telling me to leave her sis alone.All I wanted to do was send the information and be done with it, but theykeep getting all pissy, acting like I want that man. Her mom, her sis, andher all believe I want her man. It reminds me of someone who is veryegocentric and says things like "Oh they are jealous, or they are unhappyso they are doing this." It's all about them, and never about thecredibility of the information. Anyone ever been in a similar situation? I guess if she doesn't believe me,it'll be her own damn fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to break them up. I just want her to believe me. I've always hated whenever anyone didn't believe me when I was telling the truth, from a very young age I've hated that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJessica, I feel a need to talk to her about these things, because I hate to see a woman being duped by a man (or the other way around), especially a woman that is so faithful and loving to her man. I was raised Christian, and being raised Christian I've seen a lot of women who were acting like literal doormats to their husbands. Sometimes I've felt like writing a freaking book, but trust me-the Christian book stores wouldn't put up MY book, because MY book would tell women to stop putting up with crap from the men they were in love with, to stop letting him make all the major decisions, to stop being the only one to submit, etc. etc. etc. Her last status message was "Because I trust him, you hold water like a bucket full of holes." What blind trust! It's so stupid! I see women like this all the time- I trust him so everythin' gon' be fine! I just hate stupidity! I wish that members of our gender would look out for themselves more, but I guess some of them don't feel like they are worth it.
Thanks for your advice Doctor CC. I am going to try to leave her alone. I'll just type in my blog.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (24 February 2009):
 If she doesn't want to hear it, why do you feel the need to force it on her? Why are you so concerned with what they do now? You are married, let them live their lives and get past his indescretions.
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reader, Doctor-CC  +, writes (24 February 2009):
Hey Girl, Seems Like It's All Blown Up In Your Life. I Cant Say That I Know Exactly What Is Happening Becuase That Would Be Lying, But I Would Suggest That You Give This Girl And Her Guy Some Space. I Think She Is Trying Not To Believe You Because She Knows Deep Down That You Are Right, And She Doesnt Want To Lose Her Man. She Will Calm Down And Then Apologise To You, Or She Will Realise She Made A Huge Mistake And Then Apologise.
Hope This Helps Chick Xox.
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