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writes: I am 26. I met this guy on the internet. We had a date. I asked him what type of relationship he wanted from me. He said he wants an affair that he is dedicated to his work and have no time for serious relationship.I decided to go on with him hoping that with time he will want more but the last two times I visited him(he leaves one hour 30 mins ba train from me.) He never deems it fit to contact me or to ask how my journey was back from his place.What should I do. And I am pregnant now. How do I tell him.Though I can take care of myself and my baby and don't want any forced commitment from him, only for him to acknowlege his child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Dear Honeydamsel,
I have a few questions that I need to ask you first.
1)Did you have unprotected sex i.e., did he use a condom
2)Did he ask you whether you were on the pill?
3)What was your answer to the above question.
Based on your answers I will definitely get a clearer perspective of things?Right now the guy seems as if he was very clear on what he wanted.A no commitments based affair.The "affair" being the keyword here.
I researched on your situation.Being a mom myself I felt bad for you any ways.
1.The child support will be based on his income. He would need to show his income, but especially the deductions to reduce his income. These are taxes, social security, medical insurance, but also loans that he is paying."
2.If he has a low income he is entitled to German legal aid that enables him to get an attorney for free.
3.By the way, with an income of 350 EUR, he would be exempt from any child support. German law allows the father to keep a minimum of 900 EUR to himself.
May I please add that a baby for the first few months just doesn't need money but lots of love from both the parents.As a new mom would you have anyone to help you out with the baby?
Please do not even consider an abortion.A child's life is precious.The baby has not done anything wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your answer. what do you think i should do now
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionas it is he doesnt care for me? I dont want to go on with this relationship.I want him to support his child when the time comes. I was thinking of having a meeting with him soon and tell him I am pregnant. I do i go about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): if you dont want commitment then what's the problem with telling him...he already seem like he doest care about you...
i dunno how it is in your country...but if the son is his doest he have to pay child support or whatever?
ive noticed that we girls always think that we can change what they're feeling...'one day he'll want me' maybe it happens...but most times ive noticed...the girl always end up hurt
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