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writes: Okay, so I used to work with this guy for two months and well, that's how long we've known each other. When I first met him, I really liked him, a lot. And last weekend, he told me that he liked me since we met, and the day after,, he asked me to be his girlfriend. And so far, we've progressed into making out, and I let him touch places of me that normal people wouldn't be allowed to. But in my last real relationship, I didn't kiss the guy until two month in the relationship... granted, it was my first relationship, and it was a year or two ago... and maybe I was just nervous, but anyways! Well, in my last relationship we didn't have sex until 5 months, but we did other stuff, and I just remember soon all we wanted to do was have sex, and we never really went out places, just to his house. But I really like this new guy more than I've liked anyone before. And I don't know if we're moving too fast, and I definitely don't want to just always have sex with him... how do I avoid that? Should we go on dates a lot? Or take days away from each other? And how fast do normal relationships progress? Like I'm talking about, when do normal, functional relationships start to start doing sexual things together, and when do they have sex, like around what monthly mark? How long should we wait? Reply to this Question
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reader, tshxs  +, writes (29 October 2009):
if you feel ready to do it with him then do so if the feeling is mutual, however, before you do so tell him that you don't want a relationship based on just sex, you still want to be a normal couple. and if afterwards you feel that it is all about that then say to him. tell him exactly how you feel and that you'd like to slow things down. Good Luck!
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reader, mimmy0618  +, writes (29 October 2009):
 dont feel bad because you are not the only that is like that.wen i first started with my boyfriends he wanted some the 1st week and i was like no if you really you would wait until i feel like its the right time and feel like it....and let me tell you he waited...he waited 4months and right now we have 5 1/2 months ...2gether..so if he really does like you and want to be with you he wont do anything to hurt your relationship with you...ok ummm go on dates alot and if your going to stay in the house invite ppl over...like friends...for like a movie night or stuff like that...dont drink,bcuz that a weakness we all girls have...and just tell can we please wait a lil bit..
like i mad my boyfriend wait so long bcuz he was still gettin calls from his ex...and i made him change his #...and everything...so till he didnt do what he had to do he didnt get anything....lol
but you will know wen its the right time for you and him...
good luck.....
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