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writes:Right okay me and my boyfriend split up about 3 months ago.. prior to this I had told him I loved him a few times.. (I didn't) well we broke up and stayed friends. Now I get a new boyfriend he screams and shouts at me so I turned round and said YOU KNOW WHAT, I HAVE NEVER LOVED YOU I TOLD YOU WHAT YOU WANTED TO HEAR. I know it was a nasty thing to do but he made me so angry. He hasn't got the right to scream and shout at me for having a new boyfriend,Well anyway, he won't answer his phone or reply to my apology texts.. I don't wanna lose friendship with him, does anybody know what I should do?If you're a guy, how much would this have hurt you just so I can get some idea of how much I did hurt him thank you x
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reader, JustaGuy +, writes (17 August 2007):
I think perhaps he felt betrayed that you had got over him quickly and got a new boyfriend, this is of course not your fault everyone is different in recovering from breaking up.
Having just come out of a relationship I can imagine what your ex might be feeling. If I saw my ex that a still care for with another man right now it would crush me!
What you said would hurt, imagine him saying that to you. But yeah he should'nt have shouted at you. Just give it a few days and let him cool off, I dont think you really need to apologize.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): HE screams and shouts at YOU because you have a new boyfriend, (having split from this one three months before) and you think your reaction necessitates that you apologize to him?Come on! Quite apart from the fact that its generally a bad idea to try to remain friends with an ex, consider: who you date is absolutely none of his business once the breakup has occurred; and second, his behavior was totally out of line.You have every right to be angry, and no need to feel guilty about telling him the truth. I know what you're saying, that you feel you were nasty. Well, it perhaps wasn't the BEST response you could have made to his yelling - better to have told him to quit shouting, and then you either leave, or hang up the phone. However, I still say you have nothing to reproach yourself with. I wouldn't worry about keeping his friendship - he's not too concerned about keeping yours, obviously!Forget him and enjoy being with your new friend!
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