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writes:Well I am almost 7 months pregnant and have a 2 year old with my partners of 4 years. I have noticed a change in my partner the last 3-4 week's. His sex drive has been non-existent. He dose work and his hours have changed he starts and hour earlier and finishes a hour earlier. So I don't think it should of made much of a difference also this 'drout' in our sex life started juat before his work hours changed. When I was pregnant with my first, it didn't make a matter in the slightest, we was having sex every day up until my daughter was born. He says he is tired.. Or will stay up doing something until it is too late to do anything. I tried talking to him but he says it is me and I don't come onto him. I have told him I'm not confident enough too right now because of my body and fact he dose not touch me apart from just to cuddle is not helping as I don't want to be rejected. And he says I push him away when he tries to cuddle or kiss me (kiss on the cheeks or peak on the lips no passionate) behave kissed passionately once in the last 7 days (the last time we had sex) and I admit I do push him away something. I feel like I'm good enough to cuddle but that's it.. I don't feel attractive right now. I don't think he is cheating but also don't understand how he, a 27 year old man, can go a week without sex. Also he dose not masturbate, I know this for a fact. He can go 6-7 days without anything. I gave him a blowing the day after we had sex thinking that maybe that would let him know I did still want him but that has made no difference. I spoke yesterday morning for a bit, that when he said it was me. I told him I wanted to have sex. But last night.. Nothing. He went to sleep. We will probably have sex tonight as it has been a week but I think is he doing it to relief himself rather then wanting to have me sex with me. Am I over reacting?? Do men go through phases they don't want it as much?? Also how how can I approach this subject nicely without stating an argument?? I don't want to argue I want to resolve this. Sorry for the long post and thank you for any advise you can give. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2013): You're on the hormonal roller-coaster! You're finding fault in everything. You feel unattractive. You beg for affection, and push him away when he gives it to you the way he wants to. Not according to the instruction sheet.You're a bucket of tears, and pile of nerves. There is no pleasing you for the effort.He is now an experienced father and partner. He knows your moods and he knows how to dodge the bullets.He will not bother you for sex, unless you show willingness. He will have a backup plan, and he has every right to use it.You want kisses and affection. Entice him. It isn't the same doing things that should come spontaneously; when your mate is laying out a organized plan. You don't hear what he says when he says "he's tired." What does that mean to you? He worked all day, and he wants to sleep.If he says he has tried, but you pushed him away? Why would he say that to his emotional and pregnant lady, if there wasn't an drop of truth in it? Settle for cuddling. Some women don't get that.If he prefers masturbating over sex; it's because it is easy, less work, and fast. There is less anxiety afterward.It's his chosen backup when you're not up to it.You have time to explore the deepest recesses and scary sections of the relationship while he's working. At the end of the day; you have enough material to run a week of talk-shows. That's normal. You are pregnant. It's lonely, boring, and agitating. Tell him when you need something extra to keep you going.Tell him you still like sex throughout the pregnancy, and will let him know when you don't feel like it. Smile and be welcoming when he comes home. He judges your mood for the evening when he greets you after work.If you need something better, ask for it without complaining. Realize that your hormones are at the wheel, and you're just along for the ride right now. He is the same guy, he just looks kinda ugly when your hormones look through your eyes. Wouldn't you love it if he could carry the baby for the rest of the term like a male seahorse?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (7 October 2013):
 HI
Firstly you have a child and your also pregnant, that is enough for some men to back off . 1 tired and sleepless nights. 2 parenthood can be a strain for many people so the last thing on their mind is sex. and 3 his work has changed, it don't matter how little because that can do allsorts to the body clock. Chill out a bit and back off, your hormones are probably higher due to the pregnancy . so relax it will all come good in the end ( pardon the pun ) :D
Mandy xx
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