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female
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anonymous
writes:Hey I have a question about relationships and falling in lover. I'm 20 at college and worried about my dad. My parents divorced a few years ago and met other people. My dad met a really nice woman but he didn't treat her that well. He can be lovely but at the same time he can be difficult and moody and bad tempered. He left her a few months back but they stayed in touch. She was really and truly the best thing that ever happened to him (I adore my mum but my parents were badly matched and this new GF was really nice with him) but he can't see it. He now says he going dating with some woman at work who sounds not nearly as nice as his long time GF after my mum and him split up. What are the chances of him falling in love again? Will this be rebound type thing? I'm only youngish so I don't really know. How many people do we meet in life that we really love? I am worried about him even though he can be an almighty pain and a bit of a 'dickhead' at times (he was really really rude to my mum sometimes when they were married). I think he is just doing all of this to prove some sort of point but I'm not sure what. Also, if any of us try to talk to him about anything he gets angry, including anything on TV. Me and my brother watch Eastenders cos we thinks its fun and he sneers at us and he is very quick to criticise people. On the other hand he can be amazingly loving and generous. It's just weird. I would like him to try again with his ex as she is so lovely and she kind of 'gets' him (although many people say he doesn't deserve her cos of his behaviour at times). My dad is also a total control freak and this doesn't help. I'm sad to see him lose a good woman just to go dating again with women who are nowhere near as good quality as the one he had (she was soooo nice to him and pretty, funny, clever etc) and Im scared he will end up like his own dad ie married to someone (2nd marriage) that he doesn't love and barely communicating and acting weird. Help! I'm confused and worried. Thank you. Amy xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 March 2010):
He sounds pretty set in his ways.
It's sad but you just have to leave him to it.
He maybe older but it may be he still has some life lessons to learn.
If he goes out with a few horrible women then he might realise what he's losing by treating the good ones so badly. He needs to take a look at himself and the only person who can make him do that is him.
I know you want him to be happy, and with the best women out there, but you have to let him make his mistakes so he can learn to be a decent boyfriend.
Leave him to it and then when you get boyfriend you can explain how you dumped them because they weren't nice enough or were being controlling / negative. He may get the hint.
Good Luck!! xx
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