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writes:My live in boyfriend of 4 years he has a daughter that just turned 7 and between his family and friend they have all asked me if he is still in love with her he says he is not and wishes her out of his life forever and that he does not have the money to make a commitement to me like he wants to but he never stands up to her she has distroyed his credit cheated on him while they were married had him thrown in jail he is paying child support when he shouldn't have to due to the courts not taking his correct income + paying equilization and we have his daughter more than she does + after registering her in school he noticed that she put her e mail address down and wrote it down i asked him why and he got mad and said just to have why he says he can't stand her has to see her 4 x s in a week to pick up his daughter and droping her off he also takes me with she is engaged has been for 5 years and has a baby from this relationsship he also tells people i am his love and he is happy i guess i just don't understand why he would want the e mail address and kisses her ass now that he knows that she can not keep his daughter away from him for any reason. help
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reader, lost1966 +, writes (3 September 2008):
lost1966 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I didn't make the situation clear enough his ex and him are not civel to each other 1st of all she uses his daughter by making him think if he doesn't do what she wants she can keep his daughter away from him, in addition to the fact that we have taken and have the documents to prove she is unfit. His daughter fights every step of the way when we have to take her back has verbaly told us infront of her that she wants to stay with us. in addition that she has told co workers that she thinks he is still in love with her.She has done this to 2 other men pryor to him and told everyone that she was going to get him to marry her and take him for everything he is worth and she has.she has had the cops called on him because his daughter refused to go in her house to go back.she also has a 17 yr old son that was hanging out at our house that we opened to him a year and a half ago because she has locked him out in the dead of winter and had to sleep on the park bench cause he had no where to go her fiance thru him over a table while she watched. now her son is sitting in jail because he has been in so much trouble from the time they split 5 yrs ago that he is facing 12 yrs inprisinment. she also fired her lawyer when the gaurden of litham said he should have soul costodal and that she should only have her on her days off. and because her 1st lawyer wasn't trying to get money my boyfriend doesn't have. every time there was a court date it would get canceled due to her and her new lawyer. it took him 5 years to get the divorce. also when he left the home he was gone 1 day and came back to get his things and she had her current fiance moved in and he asked her infront of her now fiance if she wanted a divorce and she said no. also she said that she thought due to the fact that her cousin had an affair and her husband let her do so that she thought that my boyfriend would agree to do the same.Not to mention that between his close personal friends and family they have all asked if he is still in love with her to this day.this is only part of what has gone on.hope this will make thing a little clearer to my question in additon to the fact that he has never wanted her e mail b-4 and the other thing is even when we have his daughter and we go past the house he has to look and see who is their and i have asked why and he has said that he wants to know who is their why it shouldn't matter we have his daughter she is safe with us. who cares who is with his ex he shouldn't
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Check yourself young lady. Sorry, I've just seen your age, I thought I was talking to a teenage girl. You present as aged 41-50 (overage) and currently living in the USA. You have been in a long term (4years) relationship with a guy who has a 7year old daughter. His ex-partner is in a steady relationship (5years) and has a child for her partner.
Your partner has told everyone he loves you, but due to the fact that he is broke and has bad credit (due to his ex) and has to pay child support he is unable to make a proper commitment until he is financially more secure.
You are displaying the classic signs of a jealous woman. He is a father and of course he wants to have good relations with the mother of his daughter. It's not about you and him, and it's not about him and is her. For him his daughter is important and he will do anything in his power to make her happy.
Why dose he have his ex's e-mail. Well every good father, should have every single communication detail of the mother of their child. He needs her address, e-mail, mobile number, telephone number and anything else. He needs to be able to contact her in an emergency and the more details he has, the easier it will be...
My parents have been divorced for 25years, but they have all of each other's details, just in case anything happens to me. What if her phone breaks down, what if she moves and changes her number, anything could happen, so it's best to be prepared.
You sound very resentful of this woman and child, and very possessive as well. You don't mention children, so I must assume you have none, and don't really understand how good parents should behave. He dosen't love his ex he loves you, his ex dosent love him, she loves her partner. There is nothing for you to get worried about. He is showing all the qualities of a good father, he is doing nothing wrong, you need to relax.....
I myself do have one question, and it would be nice if you could update and answer this. You guess he is happy? Dosen't he seem happy, and why aren't you happy with this man that declares his love for you and includes you when his visits his ex to pick his daughter up? What could or would improve your relationship, what could you or he do to get rid of this jealousy thing?
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