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writes:Now this is a very aching story in my life. It is a 1 -year story so Its going to be a bit long, sorry for that. Please help me, give me some advise, cuz I really don't know what I did. Why they started hating me!! ?? I lost a friend (a brother). He decided to delete me from his life after this:So the story: I met this guy 1 year ago in my new school. Nobody liked him, he was considered an "asshole". I had no problem with him, so I started talking to him. I thought we turned into friends. He has the same surname as me, so we decided we are going to be SIBLINGS :)He almost never come to school, he was too lazy to wake up in time, so he always needed my help to send him my notes and also help him to cheat in exams. I did it happily. To be true, my "brother" never cared for my problems. He always called me when he needed some help. Never asked me how I am. But I was proud of him, I liked him as a brother. He is soo interesting!One day I started dating a guy (CS), and my brother surprised me. He sent me a public message on my Facebook wall, where he wrote me that "Your new boyfriend is such an idiot! Get rid of him quickly!" - the truth is, he never met CS before, but of course everybody (even Cs) read this message. You might think he did this because he was secretly in love with me. Well, that is not true. He always underlined that he does not like me as a girl because I am blond. And in his eyes blonds are ugly. Of course Cs broke up with me after 2 months. (He told me my friends sucks).I met a guy during working and we liked each other. Then suddenly Brother turned up again after disappearing!He introduced me to one of his friends (Dan) and he wanted us to be together. Dan liked me, but I had this new guy (Laslo). So my Brother also thought to open up my eyes. He talked to me for 2 hours on phone (I payed). He was talking about Laslo and Dan. Like: "Laslo is such an idiot, he will hurt you. But Dan is so nice, he will love you!!" And whom I love? That did not care him!So what to say? Laslo broke up with me soon after that... And my brother was working hard on getting us together. (me and his friend: Dan). During this time, he also got a girlfriend (Sofia) and Sofia's best friend (Katy) was falling for Dan! My brother does not tell her that Dan loves me, so Katy thought to ask my help for getting them together. I was suffering because of Laslo and Dan was irritating me with his love so I liked this idea. I went out to talk to Dan, told him that I do not want this relationship right now, but I see he is in a good relation with Katy blablabla. Dan told me "I used Katy only to make You jealous. But I dont like her.I love You!" - and he kissed me... And shortly I became lovesick. And we found each other. Still now we are in a relationship. BUT the problem is that Katy, Sofia started hating me, that I 'took Dan from Katy!"... and here comes the most paining part, that my Brother (who wanted me to get together with Dan) deleted me from Facebook and from his life after this. After that I started being happy with DAN! (also the girls deleted me)...2 days ago he called up Dan and told him that I am a very bad choice of him and he shall broke up with me, because I am trying to make him (Dan) a robot... That is my aim.Of course its bullshit. I just simply do not understand why he has always some problems with me, or with my boyfriends, or with what I do... Dan told him to go away and let us be happy. :)I guess I found a really good boy, who loves me so much. Even I love him, but now these "friends" are generating problems for me! What to do? Why are they doing this? (Now, if I meet my Brother in school he looks through me...)But yes, he has nobody now in school. He is left alone. Totally. Why was it good for him? What do you think? Please any opinion will help me. I really dont understand this!!!
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (17 October 2013):
 I don't like the fact that youre call this guy your "brother" what you should call him is in fact an "asshole" and keep it that way. You guys aren't blood related, and he has not shown one thing to you that shows that he cares for you like a brother would. Let go of that guy, his trying to control you or at least use you. As for Dan if you like him be with him, and if he likes you he wont let anything effect him. Good luck with this.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (15 October 2013):
 Your "brother" is NOT your brother or even a true friend!
This guy has no friends for a very good reason!
He is a controlling, manipulative and obsessive!
For goodness sake, read your own letter to us!
This guy has used you completely, totally manipulated you, insulted you and interfered in your life in a way that no true friend would have done.
He has completely messed with your head and was successfully getting you doubt your own decisions.
Ok, so you finally fell for this Dan guy and found happiness, so what does your "brother" do? He tries to sabotage it! Just like he does EVERY TIME you're happy.
This man does NOT have the right to play puppet master with peoples lives! Why have you let him do this to you?
Katy needs to GROW UP and realise that Dan doesn't like her so she needs to back off and move on. How sad is she to get her friend's boyfriend aka you "brother" to warn Dan off you and you off Dan imagining that that is going to make Dan fall head over heels in love with her?
Sofia needs to WAKE UP and realise what a "asshole" her boyfriend is and how needy her friend Katy is!
YOU need to WAKE UP and GROW UP and cut this parasite out of your life.
You should now realise why he has no friends at school at he's considered an "Asshole"!
You befriended him because you either felt sorry for him or were curious about him. The fact that you shared a surname does NOT make you siblings.
This guy has some serious issues and you would do well to steer well clear of him and just concentrate on your new relationship and your studies.
I hope this helps AB x
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