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writes:There is this guy and we used to work together on Saturday.I texted him "all the best" for his match he didn't reply.So i thought he he was avoiding me so maintain silence. Then on Monday he sent me a picture of the medal which he won and i replied to him, but then no reply.I'm confused now with this guy. Please tell me a solution as what to do. I dont want to look dumb
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reader, Abella  +, writes (9 June 2015):
 You meant well and you used to work with him on Saturdays.
he may not have seen your message until the Monday when he was winding down from the big matched and he may have been touched that you took the time to send him a message and he thus wanted to share a picture of the medal with him.
However the above pre-supposes that he is an ordinary sportsperson.
If he won a medal he may also find that his time to respond to fans is becoming a difficult to achieve task. Once sportspeople become popular (by winning) their time is not their own any more. Everyone wants to talk to them or see them or invite them to an event. Juggling all that can become impossible.
He was probably facing a heavy training schedule in the lead up to the match. He also probably received multiple messages of support that he could not deal with before the match.
Once the match was over he may have sent out the photo in a mass mail-out to all his fans with a photo of the medal.
Or one of the administration staff may have sent it out for him.
Sportspeople today go through some very gruelling training and are exhausted after it's over and just want to relax. They barely have time for real life in between required appearances and training and other commitments associated with their sport.
Unless he personally writes to you again I think this guy has moved on from his Saturday job and he is likely to end up with a business manager who will decide who he sees and when he sees them. It is how things are today with sporting people.
Be happy that he won the medal.
Be happy that he sent you a photo of the medal.
But don't expect a lot more from him if his sporting career is starting to take off and be successful.
there are plenty more fish in the sea. Go for one closer to home who is not so high profile next time.
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