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anonymous
writes:I ve been with my ex for 4,5 years...it was long distance relationship but we were seeing each other very often and planning for me to move to his country and start living together next year,once i am done with my faculty.We had really strong relationship,were so much alike,same taste,did everything together,best friends,advisers,crazy,madly in love...and then month ago we broke up.We had such a stupid argument,didnt talk for 10 days...then he texted me to send him his things and erase his friends from fb.I didnt do that at first but after lots of arguing and him insisting,i did.He even returned his fb profile,which he didnt have for all the time we were together,blocked me and erased my friends with a saying how he cant get over me if he keeps looking at my pics.I was really offended by his childish behavior and way we broke up,so i tried to ignore him and keep it cool but than one day i felt so sad and so week that i ended up begging him to make up.He just said how he s sure he doesnt want and sticking to his decision.I really dont know what had happened with him.Day before we had an argument,he was saying how his biggest fear is to lose me...and i know that he still loves me very much,which he also said.I am really confused,this was a shock to me...he didnt give me a valid explanation,and his behavior is unrecognizable :( What could possible happen to him?and than now,few months before finally moving in and all?I also didnt notice anything before,i would ve seen if he was getting colder or felt like there is someone else...but as i said,he was with me,crazy in love,talking about future,marriage,kids....Thing he said made us break up was the fact that i was blaming him still being on distance,and he couldnt take it any longer.And the truth is that i kind of did,cause in my eyes if he loved me as much as he said,he could ve ripped my passport,propose,do whatever and not wait for me to finish faculty.But he never did :( We broke up and again he didnt came,try to make up or anything.A week after i begged him to get back together,he texted me asking to see me on skype,to watch series we used to watch together,than asking if i was with some guy meanwhile,than to go somewhere nice on a trip for holidays and new year and to come see him at his place.He was giving me compliments,saying how he miss me and how he didnt lose only gf but best friend and everything...and that all came out of nowhere.But he didnt mention making up for a sec.I confronted him and asked what is that he actually wants,and his answer was:''I just want us to break up live,thats why i want you to come and see each other,cause i cant let it go like this''.After saying that i realized that he doesnt know what he wants so i said no and gave him time to think :(Right now there is nothing i d like more than to make up with him,i even told him that if he had some doubts or needed some space he should ve just asked but i really didnt deserve what he is doing to me.I was always such a good gf to him in every way,and that is not just my opinion so i m really shocked!We planned family and all from the very beginning and now i m sitting at home,all sad and missing him,not understanding what had happened and not knowing what to do.I havent hear from him in a week,after i said ''no'' to him...on which he just answered ''ok'' and sent me pics of his house Christmas-decorated,which we always used to do together,just to make me sad :( I am really good at giving other people advice,but i cant ever help myself...so any advice?I would really want to get back with him and move on in the same direction but will the ''giving him time'' help? :( I really font know what to do anymore :(
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reader, llifton  +, writes (15 December 2013):
 He also may have ended it so close to you moving because he got cold feet. You've been long distance for so long, he mag have gotten scared of making that leap. So he ended it out of the blue.
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reader, llifton +, writes (15 December 2013):
He wanted you to fly to another country, just to break up with you in person? Lol. Whatever. That's the biggest pile of horse maneur and you both know it. He wants to reconcile, but he's being too stubborn and too much of a coward to admit it. He's full of pride. no body who is done with someone and broke up with them wants to see them face to face to end it for a second time to make it good and official. That's ridiculous.
He's acting like a child. He clearly needs some time to pout and figure out what he wants. Go no contact for a while and just see what transpires.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2013): Sorry, but I'm on his side. He told you it was over and you're refusing to accept this. Instead, YOU are acting like the spoiled child who didn't get her way and who hangs around and begs for him to come back to you. It's over. You are not his girlfriend. He doesn't want you anymore. Get over it.
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