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*pplemilk
writes:I'm a 21 years old female College student, and it's been years since I've entered College.A teacher, who's about in his early 40s? who I thought was friendly, and would greet everyone a "hello" has got me curious recently about his behavior towards me, and here's my story:I sat at a chair and at a table, at a certain location in the classroom, students everywhere, noticing a teacher coming from another classroom to fix the computers in our classroom. I noticed after the teacher's done fixing the computers, he was staring at me, for more than 30 seconds. I wondered why he'd constantly stare after wards, and began questioning myself why he'd constantly stare at me. Months pass, and whenever I'd enter the classroom, he'd stare at me. Whenever I'd leave the classroom, he'd stare at me, and whenever I'd pass him or pass him in a hallway, he'd stare at me. The teacher does not glare at me, but rather, "stare", meaning he stares for more than 5-10 seconds, feels like forever if you asked me!I would constantly ignore him staring at me frequently, and look elsewhere and act as if I do not notice him staring at me. Of course I do not confront the teacher about the issue, neither have I told anyone about the issue. Summer and fall's semester of 2008 has ended, and he's been constantly staring at me. The fall semester's ended, and he's back again for this year's Spring semester.A few weeks ago, I was playfully hitting what I would consider my friend, whos 18. We both were in the center of the College, sitting at a table, I was hitting my friend with a water bottle, and constantly poking my friend. The teacher of course passed us, and did not say hi to me, but said hi to him. My friend and I passed the teacher several times after the incident, and he did not say hi or smiled at me, and I wondered why. A day after, he said to my friend, "Are you behaving?" when the teacher barely knows my friend.the question made me more curious.2 days has passed, he would constantly stare and smile at me again.Another week's passed, my friend and I were hugging and playfighting at the center of the College and he happen to pass both of us, he seemed to be walking in a rather slow pace. My friend and I went to a classroom he was in, an hour later, and he didn't smile neither did he say "hi" to me. Again, I was wondering why.Days have passed, and he would again, constantly stare and smile at me.Today, I was playfully fighting with my friend(same male friend) in his classroom, and I was touching his arms. He also wanted to touch me, but I refused. We were playfully fighting, and I held his hands, I didn't want his hands to touch me, so I prevented his hands by holding his wrists. Whenever I'd face the classroom, he'd(my friend) attempt to touch me. The teacher left, and came back again. We were still fighting, playfully. The teacher said to my friend, "I am going to call the police on you"Whenever he'd see me with a male, hugging him or seem as if we're flirting, my teacher would ignore me and would not look, smile or say hi to me. I would wait until days would pass, and he would constantly stare at me, smile and say hi to me, which I find to be pleasant, because I like to be greeted. Basically, my teacher's married. I don't understand why he'd constantly stare at me, or ignore me after seeing as if I'm flirting with this "male" friend.Another incident was, when I was about to exit, the teacher was suddenly standing and said hi.
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reader, applemilk +, writes (21 June 2009):
applemilk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot necessarily attention. I do the same outside of class, and he seems to be looking for no particular reason. Point is, I am trying to have a good time, but try to prevent doing the same in the classroom. Friend didn't understand, which is the main reason why the playfight continued. Anyway, I appreciate the help! I wanted to know whether people would find the situation odd, or not normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): playfighting and flirting are attentions seeking behaviors on your part and teachers are supposed to keep an eye on that sort of behavior is all. You really shouldn't be doing that in the classroom, unless you like lots of attention! Seems like you are seeking out his attention on this and he is just keeping an eye out for you causing any potential trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): How is this making you feel? If you are okay with your teacher's rather unusual behaviour, then I would say maybe to just try and ignore him, and just carry on with whatever you are doing.
But if he is making you feel uncomfortable, then it really isn't on, and I think maybe you should discuss it with someone. I'm sure that if you approached a teacher you trust, you could talk to them about it. At least that way, people will know your concerns, and be able to keep an eye on him.
I can't tell you what is going on in this teacher's head, because I don't know. My only concern is you, and how this is affecting you. So if it starts to get out of hand in your opinion, or it seems a bit creepy, then I recommend telling someone. Take care. x
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