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writes:I have been with my bf for 5 yrs only 3 days ago he changed he started telling me to shut up every time I spoke that he hates me. He didn't want me to stop at his mum house were he lives. So I went home and thought that it might be cuz he hasn't had his addiction so I went back to next day after ringing him asking him do you want to sort it he said yes so I went dwn but when I got there he ignored me called me names took the Mick out of me and my mum then so I went home again the next day I got a messege asking if illd go down cuz he wants to sort it so I did he did the sme so I wnt home again then today I got anougha messege ' can you come down I really want to sort it ' so all I asked us can you meet me some were cuz If you want to sort it then you can make and effert. And he just burped down the phone and ignored me and laghed why is he being like this please I need advise I'm 19 with atusim so life is hard but this is makeing me ill as I have depression Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 November 2012):
 I suggest you leave him be, don't call and don't stop by any more.
This is NOT how anyone should treat their partner. You do NOT deserve this abuse from him or anyone else.
And please talk to your doctor about the depression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012): Dump the fool OP. That's abuse, plain and simple. He's now started abusing you, you only have one option.
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 November 2012):
 Hi
Sadly he seems to be having his own life crisis, the like of which perhaps only his Doctor can untangle.
If there is medication that he should be taking (but has chosen not to take) then that may be part of the answer.
You on the other hand must put your own health first.
What he is doing is cruel and is showing you no respect at all.
After a relationship that has gone on for so long, then I can understand why you are distraught.
However you are NOT responsible for his rudeness.
You have done nothing wrong to cause him to act in this cruel way. It is NOT you fault in any way. He has a problem. Only he can get help for his own problem.
While he is so nasty, and until he is prepared to apologise then I think it is better if you keep away from him. I know he's been a huge part of your life.
But his rudness and cruelty have to be seen as completely unacceptable and Deal Breakers in ANY relationship with ANY person.
He either takes responsibility and sees his Doctor, OR you need to step away from him while he is acting up so badly.
Do see your Doctor about your Depression.
Most people do go through a period of sadness when faced with the situation you are facing.
But with your Doctors help and some other strategies you can survive this.
Other strategies could include sitting down with your mother to devise some
Leisure activities that will give you pleasure, improve your confidence and help relax you.
maybe start a new hobby too, as this might help you take your mind off the
Stress he's caused you by his rude unacceptable and unkind behaviour.
No matter how long you have been together. No one has to put up with what he's been doing to you recently.
My best wishes to you.
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reader, MsSociallyAukward +, writes (19 November 2012):
I really feel for you, I'm sorry to say this.. but he doesn't respect you. and you deserve way better. Please end it. I had a close friend of mine in a similar situation she stayed with him and he's completely ruined her confidence.. and now shes a bitter person because of it, and finds it hard to trust people now. Please try and move on, good luck sweetheart x
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