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writes:I let my boyfriend of 3 weeks finger me yesterday. Before he did he asked if it was okay and I said yes, if I was allowed to touch me. He said "I'm not as exciting." What did he mean by this? I ended up just kind of rubbing him through his jeans because I thought he meant he didn't want me to. Did he?Secondly, I'd never done this before. So, I didn't expect much even though I assumed because he's not a virgin like me he's done it before. I didn't think he would know what I liked. But he started to get rough so when it started to hurt I told him. But in the middle of that I felt what seemed like a hot liquid maybe? I was scared I bled, but I didn't, but I felt weird there for a while, not pain, but weird. Why?And a few hours later when it was closer to the time he was going to leave he asked me "what happened today, have you ever done anything like that with anyone else?" And I gave him the honest answer of no. But why did he ask me this? He already knows I'm a virgin.He's a really great guy. And I see a great future for us. He's assured me he wants to take it slow and is always worried we're going too fast, but I don't think either of us can control ourselves with how much we like one another. However we both have agreed to not have sex because he doesn't want to until he's married and the same goes for me. Honest opinions? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
Here is my take .
He said "I'm not as exciting." Probably meant that he was not very experienced and may not be able to satisfy you or do a very good job.
"But in the middle of that I felt what seemed like a hot liquid maybe?"
You could be squirting or female ejaculations and you could feel weird because you have not experienced it.
"what happened today, have you ever done anything like that with anyone else?"
Probably just satisfying his own curiosity.
It is good to keep away from premarital sex but what you are doing could lead to sex if you are not careful.
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reader, Blondiebrooke69 +, writes (22 May 2010):
U probly orgasmed but didnt know cuz u havent before...and the questions are probably cuz he wasnt sure what uve done and my advice is if ur ready un zip his pants and rub it with out the jeans it'll make him more into making u pleasured
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Believe it or not, he's even more nervous than you are! Even though you're a virgin, put him at ease and tell him what you like, and what feels good. :) Experiment with yourself without him so that you can figure out how your own body works.
Your guy sounds like a good guy - and he wants to please you. If you're not ready to get physical, let him know, because it sounds like he'll wait too for you. But if it's just nerves and you want to play around, have fun learning with him. I guarantee that he'll be honored and happy by how adventurous you are with trying new things.
There's an off-chance that he is also a virgin, but he does sound considerate!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Ask him what he meant, only he knows. The warm liquid was probably your juices. The pain probably came from him being too rough with you.
Him already knowing you are a virgin, he wasn't sure if you'd been fingered before... as you are still a virgin...
If you want a good close, honest relationship, be upfront with him and say "I don't understand why you ask me these things".
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