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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I met an older man online that lives out of town. He is about 30 years older than me. He flew into town for business. While he was here we went out a couple of times and he treated me very well both nights. Even holding my hand in public and opening doors and being very gentleman like. ANyway, on our 2nd date he treated me and his buddies to a wonderful lavish dinner. That night I had the most severe toothache that I have ever had in my entire life. I hardly said a word the whole evening only because I was in excruciating pain. I explained to him how i felt and he looked like he understood but I don't think he knew how bad I felt. I had to have an emergency root canal the next day. What are the odds. Anyway, The next day he did not call me all day and the following day I called him in the morning. He seemed very short with me. He then called me hours later that night and sounded very tired and distant. I don't know what did wrong. I thought we hit it off well and he even told me he thought we hit it off. He flew back home over a week ago and has yet to call or email me. I'm just so curious, what did I do wrong? Was it my behaviour at dinner because of my toothache? I was a bit quiet all evening but not rude. He even held my hand at the table when I told him my tooth hurt. I'm just dumfounded with all of this. I really liked him and I thought he liked me. My question is, should I contact him???
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reader, aureliuslover  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 hello!
the reason is maybe he is married and he dont want his wife to get angry with him so he stopped dating and meeting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Honey I don't want to upset you but i think this man is married which is why he hasn't been in touch. I would imagine he is one of the guys who calls when he is about to come to your city on business so he can have some fun and he definitely likes you but offers no more than that. The problem with your tooth bears no relation to him not calling at all. The reason I say this is because my ex husband used to do this. when he was away on business he would have girlfriends where he was visiting so he could have fun and not be alone in a foreign city. Your man will be in contact again without doubt the next time he is due to come over. Please don't make a fool of yourself by contacting him as he won't like it as he is probably with his family or busy. If you like him and want him I suggest you play a waiting game. Be friendly and accommodating when you see him next but don't pry and don't ask for anything more relationship wise. older men typically don't have the passion and emotion that young people do so what is really important to you won't rate on the richter scale for him. He probably won't even realise you are upset and bothered by this. My advice is take this as a bit of fun, nothing more and don't call or text as this will put him off.
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