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anonymous
writes:I am a 28 year old male and I have recently broken up with my girlfriend. All my life I have been fantasizing about women and enjoying relationships with them. I recently had a hard time getting erect with my now ex-girlfriend. So I tried different things while masturbating. One of those thoughts being having sex with another man and found out that I am able to achieve an erection while doing that. I am confused because I still don't find men attractive and could not imagine ever kissing another man or being intimate with one. But for some reason I am able to get excited when thinking about a guy. I know this is common for teenagers but I am an fully grown adult male. I am not trying to label myself but does this mean I am gay or bisexual?
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reader, werenotincontrol  +, writes (4 December 2008):
Its not just gay, bi or straight.
You can be biflexible, Or bi curious..
I once got an erection from homer simpson. It dont meanI think hes sexually appealing it just happened:P
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Sexuality for many people can be confusing and hard to understand. These typical labels like bisexual, heterosexual and homersexual are sometimes too rigid.
If you are romantically, phyicaly and emotionaly attracted to women but have fantasise over men sometimes that means that you are certainly not 100% hetersexual. I think you are bisexual but leaning more towards women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify, I did not even have the desire to fantasize about a man. I just did it to try and see why I was not getting an erection. I am trying to remove social pressures from my thoughts and still i do not want to be with a man. I just don't understand what is going on with me...could it be that i am bored or just have a fantasy that I was unaware of?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): Hey, well I can relate to you in some ways... I consider myself straight, but once in a while I find myself thinking of having sex with a girl and get aroused... NOT ever do I plan or even picture myself exactly doing it...
my advice or opinion is don't be worried... I think it is just the thrill of something naughty/ different or bad... HOWEVER if you can't seem to get aroused for you girlfriend anymore and rely on total guy fantasy then thats not good either... Maybe your not physically attracted to your partner anymore...
but I don't think your gay...
Hope I helped ^.^
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