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writes:This co-worker of mine has been making eye contact with me and when we get into a conversation he seems like he wants to stick around. This conversation at first has been about work and work relate topics. Yesterday and today has been completely different, we are know talking a little more about outside stuff but again he seems like he does not want to leave, and well me too! I seem to want to know more about him. I did find out today he has a girlfriend of 8 years. So now I am not sure what to think of it. He still makes eye contact with me and I can tell when he is looking me up and down. What does this mean I am really confused and if he has a girlfriend why does he seem interested or is he just being friendly.He is the one that told me about his girlfreind. I asked him what he was doing for easter, he said he was going to montreal with his girlfreind to see her nephew. He said he didn't want to go. I must tell you he is 45 and I am 34. He has a 22 year old daughter and I have a 6 year old daughter. Another thing about yesterday, he was working on a pasturizer we have a work and he was up on the catwalk and as soon as he saw me he came down right away and stuck around to chat. He didn't have to do that, but as soon as he sees me he looks at me a lot.He is a very nice and quiet guy maybe he just does not want to be rude and walk away from me? Last week he passed out at a store and was in the hospital he is back to work but they had to pull his licence, anway the day he came back I was in that area of the shop and I went to walk in and he must have seen me coming for he opened the door for me and I just wanted to see how he was doing. Anyway how does everyone feel now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have had a lot of issues in our relationship, I could be here a long time writing about our past. To sum it up we had separated a year ago but I feel the passion and love has not come back for me. I just hate the thought of having sex with him and I will try and avoid it. If you love someone does this happen?He is good to our daughter but I feel he and I both get frustrated with one another and we seem to snap easy. He has NEVER cheated on me. Honelsty he is a really good guy, he does the house work, laundry and ect. He does nag at me to do house work, this was a concern in the past that when I go to do something laundery for example I cannot seem to do it right or I started the laundry to early because he had stuff to go in. When I vacuum I probably either missed something, he will point it out. I would like to experience a passionate relationship and I don't feel I have it. I have a really hard time opening up to him. Speaking my mind something I can't do. I feel lke there is a wall him and I can't get it open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Why dont you love your husband any more, did you have a quarrel or is he unfaithfull?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi SamI would also like to add that I am married, our marriage has not been good for a long time. I do not love my husbund and that is obvious if I am attracted to someone else. I am the kind of person that will wait until my little girl in grown up to leave. I will wait for happiness. But once I have met this guy it is hard for me to let him go and continue living the way I am.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Hmmm... May be he just want to be a friend... But wait how do you feel about him in his presence and his absence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Hi.It does sound to me like this guy really likes you. You seem to like him too, and you both clearly enjoy one another's company.I'm guessing that, because he has a girlfriend, you are unsure of his motives, and why he is behaving the way that he is. This must be difficult, perhaps like it is a bit of a barrier between you. It could be that you two could become really good friends. However, you seem to be wondering whether he would like more. Would you like more between you? Do you think that you could maybe discuss this with him? Maybe you could try and discover where he sees things heading.I also wonder how you are feeling about yourself? The reason why I ask is because, from what I have read, you seem to really be trying to think of reasons why this guy could possibly like you. I wonder if you worry that you are not good enough, and that this is causing more confusion for you as to how this guy feels about you. If I have misunderstood though, I do apologise.Clearly, I think that this situation could be a little complicated because of the fact that he is already in a relationship, so I think that it might be good to try and find out from this guy what his intentions are, if that is something that you feel you could do. I hope this issue becomes clearer for you, and that you can find a way forward.Take care.-Sam.
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