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*laudia08
writes:Are I met my husband 5 years ago back when I was in high school it's been tough throught out these years... I have 2 kids of my own and he has 2 of his own ever since we got engaged and moved in we've been working a lot his baby mommas call him all the time I've caught him cheating and I forgave him the problem here is i don't trust him anymore and he thinks I'm cheating on him when I'm not in guessing he has a guilty feeling because he's probably doing what he's not suppose to be doing I love him to death ... I check his phone once in a while to see who he talks to he talks to his baby mommas all the time everyday and he gets mad because I get mad what should I do ??? We haven't gone to family counselling and yes I met him at age 15 i had my first child and then we broke up and now we back together with our 2nd child ... he is now 26 and i am 20 we try to be happy but we always argue about his baby mothers or how we treat our kids different "
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 October 2017):
 To be honest I think you where to young when you got married. You have a lot off responsibility for a 20 year old. I understand that you love him, but you also have your two children to think about, and marriage should very much be about trust. If you don't trust each other then what is the point? Your children are growing up in a home where you both don't trust each other, it is not a good thing for children to witness. You need to put them first before your own feelings. If he is cheating on you then you are best off without him. If you are always arguing again put the children first they should not have to grow up in such an environment. If your husband is always talking to the mother off his children then maybe he has unfinished business with her. If you feel the need to check his phone then really there is no point being in a marriage.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (5 October 2017):
 This doesn't sound like a happy partnership. It is filled with mistrust and a lot of babies depending on their parents for a good upbringing.You have probably already gone through all the options in your head. Are you afraid that if you left him you wouldn't find someone else to love you, someone who might love you better and be beyond any doubt in you mind about cheating?If he needs to see his baby's mother and talk to her what can you do? You can't stop that. All you can say is let's visit them together. If you think he is being lured back to his other women with whom he has fathered children then would you not be better without that mistrust in your life?To be honest he has been far too reckless spreading his seed around. There are too many of his babies in single parent situations. Did he never hear of contraception? It's a sad story particularly for the kids.
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