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writes:I've been dating a girl for 4 months now we got drunk and went to ponderosa to eat which we do often. After we ate she asked me if I wanted to go get married I told her I would have to get to know her better that we just met and that she would have to stop talkin to these other guys that she often texts and works with one. She said that she dint even talk to them that much that they were just friends. Then she said she was pregnant and asked if I wanted to feel it kick. I said don't say that!She said why. So I said Cause I recently got layed off from my job I'm pretty sure that she was just kidding cause she was skinny and I know u can't feel a baby kick unless she is noticeably pregnant. What do u think she said these things for? We did have unprotected sex a few times before that but she was on birth control. When we met she said she didn't want a relationship so that didn't make since that she asked me these things. After that I was feeling bad cause I really like her but was beginning to think that she was just using me. She kept asking me what was wrong but I wouldn't say just told her that I ate to much and didn't feel that good. Wë have hung out and got Drunk and went out to eat and cruised since then even had sex a few times. When we hang out cruising she is always getting texts from other guys and texting them back it drives me crazy. I think I was right she is just using me but I really love her. We recently got some movies and set in my room and watched them. I wasn't go n to do n e thing except put my arm around her to c what she would do. Later she layed back on my chest and put my arms around her and held my hand like something a girlfriend would do. I think she likes me because I've told her I really liked her and she said she liked me to but she also said she didn't want a relationship she doesn't make since. So I asked her in text a few days later. I said so u r my girlfriend right to c what she would say. She said that she told me she didn't want n e thing like that. I can't quit thinkin about her and all the fun we've had but I think I'm about to give up on her how can I make her like me more I'm lost I think she made me love her and sometimes it seems like she loves me but won't let me know. We have so much in common I don't know what to think anymore. I guess we r frnds with benefits but I think I like her to much. I recently sent her a f buddy fwd text to let her know that I was ok with that cause that's wat it seems like she wants. I don't want to loose her. But she didn't say n e thing back I'm confused I don't know if any one can help me but I could sure use some advice on this one. I think she doesn't know what she wants. Please help!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 February 2009):
 First off if you don't want children yet, USE a condom! Don't let it come down to someone else and wheather they use birth control or not. People lie and people forget. You can only be close to 100% certain that no baby pops up if YOU take responsibility for you own actions AKA use a condom dude!
Second of all she seems very immature. If you want more then casual sex you need to be able to communicate better with her. You can not carry on a real relationship via texting. It is face to face talking.
If you think there is a chance she is pregnant then she ougt to take a test. However a baby CAN be kicking at 4 months of gestation. And YES you can feel the kicks before she shows, some women don't even look pregnant til 6+ months.
From what you wrote I'm thinking you want something else out of the relationship then she does. Maybe you should take the time to get to know another girl and work on having a relationship not just a F-buddy one.
Good luck,
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 If you really want to know what this girl thinks of you, then stop being so easy to get. Maybe if you back off from her, she will realise what she's missing. And if she doesnt come running then you know she really didnt feel the same as you do. And whats the point of playing cat and mouse??? You will only get hurt. Better to find out for sure I think.
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reader, ConfusedJuggalette +, writes (12 February 2009):
 most girls dont know what they want.. but sounds like she (not trying to be mean at all just being honest with you) is just playing head games with you. The whole saying she's pregnant, obviously a lie if your still going out drinking all the time. and then theres the face that she said she wants to get married one minute, and the next she dont even want you to be her boyfriend? You seem like a nice guy from what i have read,and i know its always hard when it comes to things like these, so i honeslty can not give you any advice. all i can say is what i've already said.. sorry.. doubt i helped any. but yeah.
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