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female
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36-40,
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writes:OK, bit of a complicated one folks.My BF and I are in a long distance relationship. I'm in Ireland and he's currently in Canada so it's quite a long distance. We see each other roughly every 3 months, for anywhere from 2-6 weeks at a time.we've been together ages, our 5 year anniversary is actually in a week! :) the distance is also coming to an end in 2012 as we're getting married and i will be heading off to canada.Anyway the probs is when we see each other for those 2-6 weeks, he wants me all to himself. whether i go see him, or he comes to ireland, he wants us to spend the entire time alone. when i make plans to have dinner with my best friend or do things with my family, he gets really upset with me.i do this becos i love him, hes important to me and i want my friends and family to know him. not only know him, i want them to feel somewhat close to him - after all we'll be married soon!!!we do spend lots of time alone but i do also like organising nights down the pub or out to dinners occasionally too so my fam/friends can all get to know and love him.likewise when i go to canada, my favourite thing to do is spend some time with his family, hanging out with his brothers, etc. it makes me feel like im part of the family, like they know me and accept me. and i love getting ot know his friends.i just dont feel like its healthy, even in an LDR, to spend all our time alone. he prefers it and would rather not spend much time with our families or friends during our precious time togetherim so torn :( i dont know who's right, or if anybody is, or if there's any compromise. I need insight please.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (11 December 2010):
 dont die over this. next time ur physically together just tell him straight how u want things to be.try to reach a compromise with him. dont discuss it over the internet.
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