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writes:I want some quick advice please as this is make or break should I do this or not. I started a fun kissing thing with a guy I stated a new job with. It didn't come to much as he has a girlfriend. But i have really fallen for him. I was off sick for 2 weeks and I couldnt stop thinking about him. It's just him he's different and special. Anyways I am sure I am getting fired tomorrow morning because off my absence and I am almost 90% sure that is what will happen. This guy is on a different shift from me and if this happens I wobt even get to say bye. We don't have each others numbers. I wrote him a letter saying: I am writing this because I won't see you again. I just wanted to say that your a good friend and it was really good to why to know you. There something about you and I have these feelings I never expected. I understand you can't return them. We were only a bit of fun so this may come a a surprise. I didnt want to leave without telling you. If you ever want to contact me it would be great. I don't expect that though. All the best. Then my name and my number. I knoe he had a gf. I dont expect anything. I just want him to know that there someone out there that thinks he's pretty damn special. Never say never and all that! Should I leave it for him or walk away wondering
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reader, grymsoul  +, writes (27 March 2012):
 To laura_pops_87
Sorry if my response came off as a bit cold. It's a little harsh love from one your your uncles. I would hate to see another girl ignore the clear signs of dishonesty and fall into a trap devised by a man. You'll find someone that's right for you someday. And when you do, you won't have to second guess whether or not you should go for it.
Good luck.
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reader, laura_pops_87 +, writes (27 March 2012):
laura_pops_87 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI decided not to leave it. I do really like him but I need to just walk away. Your right I need to have more respect for myself
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (27 March 2012):
I completely agree with Wisdom. Your heart is so completely blind with attraction that you seem to forget that he kissed you while being in a relationship. This is certainly a guy that doesn't put much value on his partner. Yea, I know what you might be thinking. "I'll be different. He didn't love her as much as he'll love me." Wrong. He loves her enough to be with her. . .and cheat on her.
Even if you gave him that letter, what are you expecting in return? A cheater's heart? A dishonest man's affection. In a relationship that is worth less than a penny. When you do get him, you'll be wondering what he's doing while you two aren't together. Is he kissing some co-worker of his? Is she sending him a love letter? Is he planning on leaving you for her? Open your eyes. Look at the kind of guy you're inviting into your life. Don't be so gullible as to believe that it can never happen to you.
He's a cheater plain and simple. If you're into those kind of men. By all means. Leave him that letter.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (27 March 2012):
 Its your call, but ask yourself the following 2 questions
1) If he was cheating on his GF with you... what is to stop him cheating on you with someone else who takes his fancy?
2) If it was your BF and some girl was kissing him and writing letters to him, how would you feel?
May sound harsh but the simple truth its it comes down to what type of person you want to be.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2012): yeah leave the note for him. I mean, yeah he has a gf but then if he was messing around with you he must not like her very much, maybe they are going to break up. your note isn't pressuring him to break up his relationship or anything, just informing him that IF he is available he can contact you.
I would caution you, however, that what if he does contact you but he still has not left his gf? then what are you going to do?
you could be getting yourself into a mess, but who knows it may not happen either so why not cross that bridge if and when you get there.
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