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*apunzal
writes:Im so confused....I am 23 so is my partner we got together when we were 15 had children at 19 and 21, I feel like we are at the end of our relationship I have no one I feel I can truely talk to, I think I've just grown and changed since the 15 year old girl I was, I've never experienced the young lifestyle and we are both totally different people I am outgoing work in a pub he is quiet around people and enjoys cars. We both have said if we didn't have children we don't think we would be together now. If I'm honest I'm not sure I love him nomore but then I feel he should be right for me, but I cry everyday we argue/bicker everyday and it upsets me he thinks its nothing... All that has been going through my mind for months and months is I should end this but nearlly 8 years together children house car together and the tought of being alone is stopping me from ending it and what if its a huge mistake n just a stupid phase I'm going through. Reply to this Question
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reader, rapunzal +, writes (30 November 2011):
rapunzal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, you really have some wise words.
Is it bad that all that stuff you have said ages ago I would have been like yeah try it, but now I'm like I can't be bothered n I don't want to feel like that I just feel like we are more friends but then think I'm scared of being alone.
When we got together we was at school started off ok until 6 months into relationship we finished school and was just two of us sort of ditches our friends my mum n dad didn't want us together as we rowed all the time after a year n half I split up with him he sort of 'mentally abused' me if ya wanna call it that ( my mum did ) to which I never went out didn't do no teenage stuff so when we split I got we someone else anyway after 2 months of being split up we got back together (he knows I was with the other boy but doesn't know anything happend) we was back together 3months before I fell pregnant, he them changed was nice my parents even say he not that selfish boy he was well nearlly 5years on and I'm wondering when people say caputure what you once had what have we had :( xx
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reader, rapunzal +, writes (28 November 2011):
rapunzal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you...
See we went on a week holiday last year just us 2 n another couple without kids we ended up rowing quite bad. Since then just got worse, we argue over such stupid things that I can't be bothered nomore I've tried talking with him telling him I'm not happy that he needs to help out more etc it works for a day n we back to arguing. I've heard people say before about being in pub industry could make change but I'm not to sure as I know if we were to split I would still just work my normal hours and be home for my children. I feel like he has days of trying and I just Cant be bothered as harsh as that sounds we hardly have sex I'm just so down arghhh so hard! As I want it to be the perfect little family xx
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reader, rapunzal +, writes (28 November 2011):
rapunzal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you this helps, we have tried loads of times but he thinks things are fine. I think good idea to get it 3 months then see how feel thank you xx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 You should always go with your gut instinct and if it is telling you that you don't love him any more then there is something there that is making you feel like this. You need to open up to him and tell him how you are feeling and why you are feeling like this. Maybe the both of you can try and fix things. Give it three months and see if you feel any different then, if not then I think it is time to end things no matter how scary it is or even agree to go on a no contact break to see how you feel about it. But be honest with him and tell him the truth. Good luck.
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