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26-29,
*arah29x
writes:hey people,i've tried by myself and with my bf but i still can't get there. i dunno what to do i figured i start masturbating but its still doesn't work(touching my clit and fingering myself) but nothing and when my boyfriend fingers me it feels a lot better than when i do i myself. i've had the whole pee feeling but still nothing, we've tried fingering in different positions and it feels amazing but i just can't climax however long 2, 3 hours nothing and after about three hours of fingering it starts to get a little bit boring and worn out i want to but it starts to get a little frustrating after a while.i don't think i know how to masturbate i'm very new to it all so tips on that would be great to.please lots of suggestions, advice and help :) thanksxx
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Ok, don't worry about it, take it easy. You're 13-15 right? SO you have pleanty of time to learn. Everyone is different and learn differently and in their own time. I'm 25 and have only learnt how to orgasm with my boyfriend over the last couple of years. Before then it was like you said, feels amazing, but no orgasm.
What I have learnt is that YOU need to make youself come. Your boyfriend can only help you get there, by doing the things you like and giving you the time and attention you need, which it sounds like he is keen to do(sounds like a good guy). In order to do this you need to learn for yourself what you need to do to orgasm. You need to do this on your own to build up confidence and to explore what works and what doesn't. It really is a matter of trial and error. Guys anatomy is(according to all reports I've heard) so mcuh easier to figure out. Most guys find it very easy to work out how to reach orgasm alone and from sex. But females are reported to take longer to achieve this knowledge and to achieve orgasm. So don't feel like you are abnormal or doing anything wrong, you're COMPLETELY normal.
Don't pressure yourself, take your time. If you feel comfortable to, search for female masturbation tips online and try things out. The best time to try is after you've had a bath(so you are relaxed) and are completely alone in the house, so you won't be disturbed. Take your time and most importantly, enjoy your sexuality for yourself and with your boyfriend. The best things in life are free!
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reader, nikkigin  +, writes (18 April 2011):
wow um neither do i but i dont see what the big deal is. its not like its something totally necessary...
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