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writes:So my girlfriend are I started dating two months ago but before that we were pretty close friends. We told eachother a decent amount about our sex lives. Now that we are together I feel like I won't be able to give her everything she wants. I want to give her the best sex she's had. She has said before we were together that she enjoys having her ass eaten but I just don't think I can do that. Another thing that I'm having trouble with is that she told me that she had a three-sum and it was the way thing she's ever done. Does anyone has any advice on what I should do or how to get past this? Thank you in advance for the help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 August 2017):
 She says that's what she enjoys and that's what she's done, but has she been clear that that is what she expects of you or was she just making conversation and you've made the leap yourself?
Not getting everything you want is not a deal breaker for most people. I think you should clarify this with her because if it's an expectation, then you'll need to be honest and direct. If not, then you've been worrying for nothing.
And I wouldn't recommend either of those anyway. The threesome for obvious reasons and the other could result in a nasty bacterial infection. Actually they both could...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2017): TBH I find this post hard to believe. The said lady must be one in a million. My experience women are usually too shy to ask for such an extreme thing. This is done in porn and it is not to every ones liking. Personally I find it disgusting. Anyway some of the aunts have been kind enough to comment and I whole heartedly agree with then.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (23 August 2017):
 Don't worry about it. Relationships are give and take and if you're not comfortable with something, you don't have to go for it. My ex mentioned to me that he likes thongs, I consider them "butt floss" and absolutely hate them but he wasn't phased. It's something he liked, but didn't necessarily need me to do. He also liked women to wear dresses so I gave in to that one every once in a while to make him happy.
Find a nice compromise. What else does she like that you can do? Is there something neither one of you have tried that may be intriguing to you both?
Don't feel intimidated or nervous. Great sex comes with time and getting to know each other believe it or not. What works on one woman may not work for another. Listen to her and keep communication open. Ask her, "What else feels good to you? Do you like...? How do you want me to...?"
Don't overthink too much. Enjoy your time together.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (23 August 2017):
 I'm with Honeypie; the butt-mouth stuff is unappealing for a large number of people. Ask if she'd like to do the same to you - hopefully she'll say no and you can explain that you don't either. Regardless of what she says, you can say no to things.
Try new things you both want to do. Also, wanting to be her best sex partner isn't realistic, just make sure you focus on her pleasure without compromising what you feel comfortable doing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 August 2017):
 If there is something you don't WANT to do (ass eating doesn't sound very... enticing, to be frank) then DON'T feel pressured to do it. IT should be OK in a relationship to say no to things.
Find other things you LIKE to do, that she enjoys and have at it. GET really good at that. She might forget about ass munching.... *shudders*
Try things she HASN'T done before. Erotic massages (you can google for a "how to" I'm sure. Beginners Kamasutra... I don't know... Just tossing out a few ideas.
By doing things SHE (and you haven't done) you can SHARE something where you won't COMPARE it to past experiences. Get my drift?
BE creative!
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