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female
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30-35,
*mandanash
writes:My boyfriend of a year and a half will be going away for the summer, and be living thousands of miles away for a summer job.I told him last summer that if he did that, I wouldn't be able to uphold a long distance relationship, and i got upset about it often. Well, he still decided to go, and I don't want to do long distance, because ive been hurt by LD relationships so many times before.I really do care for him, but I don't want to get hurt again, and I don't want watch him the live the kind of lifestyle the jobs entails (everyone goes and drinks every night and parties TONS).I don't want to break up with him, but I don't want to see him living that kind of lifestyle, and i don't want to get hurt by him potentially cheating, or me having to wait around for him all summer.What should I do? Break up with him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 April 2011):
 ok so he's going to be gone for the summer? just the summer? oh if only I could do an LDR for 3 months and have my partner here with me after that...
IF this is just a short term temporary separation you may want to attempt to make it work... but if you are going to be crazy insecure and jealous then perhaps it's best that you guys take a break over the summer....
IF you can let go and trust and let him have a life (i.e. go out with friends both male and female) and have a great summer experience then I think you should try to maintain the relationship if that's what he wants.
IF you are going to call him constantly and whine and complain and be jealous and controlling then you should walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): This is a tough situation. It sounds like it boils down to trust in the relationship. Has he done anything to break trust? If not, Id try to give the guy a chance at making it work. Thats sad youve had issues in the past with other idiots. Maybe this one could be different? Good luck.
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