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writes:Hi,I'm a typical 16 year old boy in a situation I bet everyone has been in, so I'm hoping you guys can help me :)Basically I've getting quite depressed recently because I like a girl but I don't think she finds me attractive, its been like that all my life, I always get the "we would be better as friends" rubbish. I've never been seen as a good looking guy and only as the "friendly" one or the guy in the middle type. So because of this I don't see myself as good looking and I always give up on girls I like, its really annoying me. Its quite hard to explain how I feel but I'm hoping you understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): with all respect to duskyrowe, i think them pointers just prove what andrew is already being told everywhere.. you have to be a certain way to impress people you like. just be yourself andrew, dress how you like, speak how you like, never let anyone tell you or change the way you are. however i do agreee with "learn to love yourself." i was always told that if you dont love yourself, how are others supposed to love you? and of course having a sense of humour, like you say you always make her laugh, thats always a good thing! i really hope this helps.. i know how it feels. never put yourself down andrew. you are worth more than you think. AAJ.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Someone will like you, you're probably foccussing on the wrong girl. xx
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reader, AndrewJS +, writes (25 August 2009):
AndrewJS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what you mean duskyrowe, ive been told I have a great personality and I always make this girl laugh. Ive just never had a chance to prove myself in a relationship if you know what I mean.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Sweety if you continue to put yourself down and have a lack of confidence. Girls will sense that and run a mile.
Here are the qualities that will make you attractive.
Sense of humour (Us girls love to laugh)
Confidence (Without being too cocky)
Personality (Always shines through)
Taking care of one's apperarance, making sure you are clean and presentable. (I am not saying you have to dress like David Beckham)
A good coversationalist (Don't talk too much about yourself or Football) Find out about the girl you are with, what her goals and interests are too.
And learn to love yourself.
Not everyone is bothered by stunning good looks, sometimes good looks can overide a person's personality if they are too vain. Hope I have given you good advice my love. Good luck x.
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reader, AndrewJS +, writes (25 August 2009):
AndrewJS is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help guys, it's made me feel alot better :) Unfortunately at the minute she has a boyfriend, so im just trying to get to know her better and become better friends. Is becoming good friends a good idea? As I don't want her just thinking of me as just a friend when I tell her someday. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): hi, well to start off being 17 is a tough age ! especially with looks and pressure to fit in etc. liking someone and not knowing how they feel is awful as well, it messes with your mind a bit! but despite how it seems, it isnt about looks. this girl should like you for your personality, and when someone likes you for that, you become more attractive to them. its weird but its true. i think the problem is your self esteem, you feel more upset than you should. so you think you havent got the looks? well no one has everything and to be honest that could just be you seeing yourself worse than you are. either way you said, youre always described as the nice guy. that cant be bad? its better to have a good personality than looks, i can promise you that much! most girls choose guys who they actually like rather than the good looking ones.. and as for those who dont? they're not worth it because theyre shallow! so dont give up on romance. if you like someone, go for it. the worst that could happen is that they say "no thanks" and what have you lost? a little bit of pride? thats not even worth worrying about :) AAJ.
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reader, Miss Know-it-all +, writes (25 August 2009):
This may be a confidence issue. Don't give up, girls can be challenging but they just need to be fought for. You are being hard on yourself, other people probably see you so much better than you do. You could let her know how you feel and then you can know if she feels the same way, or you could get a close friend to ask?
Best of Luck! :)
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