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anonymous
writes:i no this is an odd question but im a private person and hardly tell my friends any of my secrets or problems is this a bad thing??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): No, no it isn't. Why would you think this is bad? If you think this is bad, because you're keeping things from them, well ask yourself this: By not telling them, are you harming them? By telling them, are you benefitting them?
The thing is, some of us, like you, prefer to keep our problems and our issues away from our friends and family. I don't think it has to do with trust per se. I think it's just your personalized way in handling yourself.
If you think about this, trust isn't an absolute thing. Having different friends; each person in your group of friends may fill in a different, possibly more specific role in your life. As of now, since you're still young-ish, this may not be apparent, but over time and through various experiences, each friend that you have now and each friend that you meet in the future may possibly become closer to you in varying degrees.
Example: I only have two friends - a male and a female that I share ANY deeper thoughts and emotions with, but I can tell you that it took me a good 8 years to open up. For everyone else, I have different connections. Some spiritual, some ancestral, others for relationship type of topics, bundled with silliness and the like, and others, I don't even talk to on a deeper level, but they call me up and share with me, their own problems.
Stuff like that. ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): It could be a bad thing from the point of view that you might be distrusted from people in general due to hurtful feelings towards your family. I mean, maybe you didn't developed trust in people because you were brought up in an environment in wich you felt consciously or unconsciously that your family wasn't trustworhty. Therefore as our family is the first support system of every human being maybe you feel if you can't trust the people who are supposed to care more for you Why would you trust other people?
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