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writes:ohh dear where do i begin?! sorry if it sounds rude or dirty or such. back to skool thursday, but im wodering what people will say to me because basically, on the 2nd of august, it was my best mates party, me and my bf were there, who ive known since we were, like, babies, he was 13 at the end of july. i no he wud never cheat and he never has because we live out in the sticks so theres never been an opportunity, ive bin with him for about a year, and ever since startin secondary skool my mum thinks ive changed alot, just because i go into the local town alot to meet with friends.well, we were at this party, and we were playing 7 mins in heaven, it was my turn, i was hopin i wud get my bf, and i did! but my m8 kinda doesnt have any closets big enuf so we were usin the bathroom. we were all reli drunk, and i only remember it slightly, he led me into the bathroom, we started kissin and stuff, and he was puttin his hands up my top and down my jeans, next thing i no my jeans are on the floor and he lifted me up onto the sink, he was kissing my neck and stuff and i felt him pressing against me, i think i said "put it in if u like" and gave him a wink, then he put it in, it hurt, but i didnt care. after a few minutes it stopped hurting, and i had my arms wrapped round his neck with my head resting on them and my eyes shut. he stopped, and said "when i say, pull your trousers up quickly" so he pulled out, told me to pull my trousers up, and put himself away. we went back to the group and they were saying things like "what were u up to then?!" etc. but ive only just thought about it, ive been sick at least once every morning since last friday, my abdomen used to feel soft as i could feel when i was washing in the bath, now its quite hard, i was meant to have my period a week ago and it hasnt come yet, ive had a massive breakout of spots on my face, my brother says ive been reli moody towards him, and i dont remember my bf putting a condom on.my mum gave me the whole talk about sex, babies etc about two months ago so i know alot of stuff.i need help, i dont really want to be pregnant, im scared what my boyfriend will do or say and what my parents will do or say. help me!
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reader, countryboy  +, writes (2 September 2008):
Its hard to say in your situation because you dont know if he had on a condom and you didnt say weather you were on the pill of not. but chances are that if it happened that fast he didnt have a condom on. what you need to do is ask him if he ejaculated. becasuse if he didnt then the chance of you being pregnant is greatly reduced. another thing you should do is get a home pregnancy tester and find out for sure. but the downfall there is you would have to wait for about 4 weeks for it to be accurate. ..Good luck with everything..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Hi,Im not going to give you the whole talk on "your to young to have sex and drink alcohol. you and your boyfriend could get in alot of trouble" because im not your mother but please take into account those things coz i may just be 13 but i know how you feel.If i was you i would tell my bff and get her to go with me to the shop to by a pregnancy test and then do it at her house or somewhere where no one can catch you.If you turn out to be pregnant you HAVE to tell your mum. she will support you all the way.If your not please make sure to use a condom next time!tell me how it goes :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Dear you really are too young to be having sex. But you are and with adult activities come adult rewards or in your case consequences. Within marriage sex brings a couple close and brings the blessing of children. Outside of marriage sex brings consequences. I am not a female, nor a doctor, however anytime you have unprotected sex it is a possibility that you can become pregnant. Go to the Doctor, be tested. If you are please be smart and don't drink, smoke or abort this child. Life is so precious, maybe you can bless a family who wants to adopt.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (2 September 2008):
 I really hope this post is fake. I'm thirteen myself and your age states that you're between the ages of 10 and 12, so I'm assuming you're 11 nearly twelve as you're at secondary. Sorry for the language but why the fuck are you acting all sultry in a friend's bathroom like you're way older than you are.You say it was a friends house and that you were all really drunk, where the hell were the parents? My only advice would be tell your parents, ask your mother for a pregnancy test and tell her absolutely EVERYTHING. I'm disgusted, I honestly I am. Whatever you do, don't confide in a teacher. At a doctors surgery, they have a confidential policy, schools don't, if you tell a teacher they can tell the police and social services everything you told them. Your friends parents could be arrested and charged for child neglect, and if you're sitting there wondering 'what for' for letting you guys get drunk and for not supervising your games which ended up in a severly underage pregnancy. And their child could be taken into care. Tell your parents, well tell your mother, let her tell your dad, he'll flip and that might reflect VERY badly on your boyfriend. You're a very silly girl. When you start having sex, you start messing with the adults world. Something you're not ready for for a long long time. Don't meddle with things you cannot handle. You're very silly, verry very silly. Please, if this post is real, then don't flirt like that you're messing with forces that are much stronger than you. Good luck, you're going to need it.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (2 September 2008):
 As much as I sympathise your situation, I can't say I sympathise you at all. The number of details morally wrong in this problem is unreal! If you can get up to this much at 10-12 years of age, god know what the rest of your peers are doing.Not only did you get drunk at this part, you had sex at this party. Furthermore - you didn't use any form of protection. I feel this is the right time to give you a short lecture on the law as you blatantly need telling so...It is illegal for anyone under 16 to engage in sex within the UK for a reason. Anyone underage, in the eyes of the law, are not seen as 'adult' enough, nor responsible enough to deal with sex itself and the consequences it may have. Now, don't get me wrong. I know a lot of people your age who're very grown up in certain ways. But by drinking (to the extent where the events in question are hazy), followed with sex - you are only proving the law right as you did not use protection now are you mature enough to handle the consequences...Of which, could be indeed that you are pregnant. Did you not think about this before hand? Before you want in to the bathroom? Before you carelessly had unprotected sex? From your interpretation, your body is sending the right signals that you ARE pregnant.I don't feel like lecturing you anymore. But if you 'know a lot of stuff' already, you should know that within 72 hours after sex, you could purchase (£22) the morning-after pill that would very likely erase any chance of pregnancy. As this is a week after, you MUST tell your mum. If not then a teacher and/or guidance councellor at school. Someone who can make available to you pregnancy tests. Get one as soon as possible.Good Luck.
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