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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Why does he almost never compliment me?The guy I'm dating rarely ever compliments me. He'll say things like "Hey beautiful" or occasionally say something like I have a nice smile, etc..but it's very rare. It came up one time that I tried to figure out why he was like that..and his response was "You can't honestly tell me you don't already know you're gorgeous"He made it sound like he barely says anything bc I already know it and he doesn't want to give me a big head. It kind of bugs me though-I give him compliments freely.The worst is when I'm feeling insecure about something-he doesn't really ever say the right thing to make it better..Am I reading into this too much? I don't need to be flattered all the time, but it would be nice every now and then!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2013): it's just not in some people's dna.
either ask him directly - How do I look? when you want a compliment.
or worry less about how you look.
or leave him.
I'd suggest asking him what he thinks when you want a compliment.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 November 2013):
You're not reading into it too much at all. The problem is that you're with a guy who is the way he is and you're going to have to accept it or you'll never be happy.
Don't take his lack of compliments personally, either, because it'd be the same thing if you were someone else.
Try telling him that as shallow as it may seem, you really value compliments and never getting them makes you feel (however it makes you feel) and that, even though you realize it's not in his nature to compliment very much, it'd make you a very happy woman to occasionally hear one. If he doesn't respond to that then accept it or leave, that's your only two choices really.
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