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female
age
30-35,
*attoo12
writes:My boyfriend is one of the nicest guys I've ever met. But sometimes I feel like it's a problem because he feels the need to cheer up everyone, especially this one girl he just met at the college he's going to. She has stuff going on in her life and she texts my boyfriend to have him cheer her up and make her feel better constantly. I've already told him that it's kind of weird that they text so much and he says he'd feel bad if he didn't help her. I don't understand why he has to be her only shoulder to cry on when she has other friends she's grown up with to confide in. I don't want to tell him to stop talking to her because I don't want to be a controlling girlfriend. I'm fine with him having friends that are girls but this one is too close to him. How do I figure out this problem?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 December 2014):
 Does she contact your boyfriend for support when he is with you? If she does you could let him know it feels like there are three people in the relationship, and you would prefer it if there were only two.... ask him to set some boundaries for her.
I think you are right to have some concerns about this girl.
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