A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Do you think i should be concerned about some things this guy has done? The first time i went to his place, he came and stood outside his apartment with me while i waited for my taxi, but when i went there last time, he told me that he wasn't going to come outside with me, as he didn't want to stand in the freezing cold. I think it is polite to wait until someone leaves the place you live in. When i looked a bit annoyed about it, he said "you think I'm selfish, don't you?" This was late at night, and he was tired, and also quite drunk, but i didn't think that was any excuse. also, when i was going to buy a drink in a bar once, he sounded angry and kept saying that i shouldn't buy that particular drink, as it was more expensive than some other drinks. i think he did that because he knows i don't have a job, so he assumed that i couldn't afford it, but i didn't mind paying more, as i liked that particular drink. He also says that he doesn't want me to spend my money on him when we go out, and he has sometimes bought me drinks, but once, he didn't have much money, and he said "OK, you can buy me a couple of drinks if you want." I had said that if he didn't have enough money i could get him some drinks, but i was surprised that he had the nerve to tell me to get him some drinks. he has also paid for a taxi for us both before. The hours for his job have been cut down, and he said he feels ashamed sometimes because he doesn't have much money. the say after i went home in the taxi last time, he asked me if i got home OK, and when i didn't reply straight away, he said "I've done wrong, haven't i?" Also, when i don't reply to his texts straight away, say, if I'm busy or something, he sends messages over and over, soon after he has sent the last text, asking me to text or ring him. what do you think?
View related questions:
drunk, money, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Thanks for your reply.i was brought up to be polite,and i wouldnt take money from someone even if they suggested it.i would also wait and see that someone gets home ok.i guess i am comparing him to another boyfriend too as he used to always make sure i got home ok .he was very polite and protective.with this guy i worry that when he got angry about the drink i wanted to buy,and when he texts over and over,that maybe that shows signs of controlling behaviour,and i thought it was quite selfish when he wouldnt wait until the taxi came.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Overall I think you might be over analyzing your relationship here. The things your boyfriend does and says appear, to me at least, quite straightforward - in that sometimes for whatever reason, money is troubling him. The taxi issue is just a practical one. I cannot help but wonder if your relationship is being undermined for any other reason and because of that you are noticing these perhaps less serious issues?
...............................
|
