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writes:I think I need help but don't know where to go or who is the best person to talk to? I know I have self esteem problems and I cant seem to be able to get to the point where I like myself and I know I am not a horrible person and I should like myself, I feel ugly all the time and always picking faults with myself. I feel that I can't have my own opinion or judgement and can only rely on other peoples views and opinions. I go to bed worrying who doesn't like me and what people are saying about me and can't sleep, then I dont want to get up in the morning to feel like that again. If I get drunk I like being drunk but then soend the whole week worrying if i annoyed someone. I feel every man I meet and I dont hear from again it's because I'm annoying and ugly and worry what he is saying to his friends. No man wants to be with me. I need to sort my problems out, I dont know what to do. Please can anyone help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): I was similar to you, still am in a way. I was actually slightly worse i think. I'd worry what people thought about me, how i looked, what i said. It's really tiring to be that way.
One day i decided to myself that if i was ever going to be happy i had to just stop caring. Sounds impossible i know but you just have to let it go piece by piece. Right a list of all your good points, read it everyday. Whenever you get a negative thought about yourself replace it with something positive.
Try not to turn to alcohol because it won't help in the long run. If you want to change you have to face it head on.
You might have a mild case of OCD, i have it but it's not as bad as it was. Then again it could just be low self esteem. Try not to dwell on the negative. Take up new hobbies, get outside, get yourself busy.
Do something you've always wanted to do or accomplish. The more positive things you do the more your self esteem will improve.
If you still feel it's not getting better you might want to consider some kind of therapy.
I've been there and it will get better if you want it to. Feel free to message me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Hi ok first of am sure the reason men dont stick with you because you are ugly the reason here is you have no self confidence or belief and you worry to much, and darling if you were a model you would still chase men away with this sort of behavior, deep down am sure you are a lovely girl. Guys actually do need a girl to have a great personality for them to be attracted to them and your not allowing your true self to shine through because you are down on yourself and you worry to much about what people think of you.
You really do need to get help, you need to go and get councelling and turn your life around, make an appointment with your doctor and he can put you in contact with a local thereapist who will try and help, you need to be honest with them and tell them how you feel and they will listen and advise you on how to help yourself, and they are confidential so nobody will find out. Goodluck.
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