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writes: I don't care for my step Daughters.. It's not that we don't get along or that they treat me badly but the way they treat their father (my husband). There Mother wasn't in their lives much when they were kids and their father did everything for them. Now that they are in their early twenties they only come calling when they need something or at their birthdays or Xmas. They never call or have much to do with their dad any other time.. When we do see them which it always because my husband makes the effort they treat him poorly . One example is they won't even let him in their house or they just act disrespectful. There was a blow up at our last get together and my husband had enough and let one of his daughters know that he was their dad and they would not disrespect him !! Well it is getting to my husband quite a bit now that he hardly has a relationship with his daughters.. I try to tell him you have done everything you can do . hopefully they will grow up some day and come around.. I see how they hurt him and that makes me angry and that is why I am just getting to the point where I do not like them. I am just at my wits end and I do not know what to do.. If anyone has any advice I would love to hear it.. Thanks!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): You may not like them, and that is your right. The fact is that their father has to be the one to set the boundaries and all you can do is support him and be there for him. My brother went through a similar situation with his wife's children, and he got involved and had his say about how they treated "his wife". But he also forgot the fact that she is "Their mother", and he made the whole situation worse. You love your husband and don't want to see him being treated in this way, but even my brother has said that now he sees the best way to handle the situation is to support your partner, and let them deal with their children's behaviour, and just give them support it's all you can do. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): If Mom wasn't around- who raised them? Was Dad's guilt over having to be both parents lead him to over indulge his daughters? Then he would have been part of the problem.
I'm just going to cut through it all and say COUNSELLING for him to deal with the grief, anger, and healing of a broken home/marriage. Because the aftershocks are still an issue.
Also to get some support, strength on how to put up HEALTHY boundaries to these unhappy women.
Hope all goes well and keep us posted.
*hugs*
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Sounds like the kardashians. Spoiled and immature. They are just young n dumb i suppose. I think the best thing you can do is continue to have a great relationship with him and encourage him to continue to have patience with his daughters. He needs to stop being there go to guy and let them grow up. I think hes been too nice to them and sadly they now usr him. He should approach the situation as lets workout our issues and it starts by me changing some things vs you girls only come to me for money and are disrespectful. The silly brods have hearts and they can shape up if they see the damage theyve done to the father but the father hasnt walked out of their lives. Good luck.
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