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writes:What do I do?! My girlfriens says she's tired of me asking her to do thing she doesn't want to and she might be thinking about breaking up with me. We have been together for almost 2 years and during that time we took a month-long break, in which one of her friends kissed her because he liked her and thought she liked him. Ever since it gets me upset whenever she talks to him alot or invites him along with the rest of our friends. I stopped telling her to not talk or hang out with him at all, and told her that just a little distance would be good, but she isn't ok with that either because she says I have no good reason why I should ask taht of her. She says as long as she doesn't like him and he doesn't like her it should be totally ok for her to hang out and talk to him all the time she wants. I just don't like it after what happened and would want if she put some distance between them, but she won't unless I guarantee her that it will make me change how I act/feel/think about her talking and hanging out with that Fucking guy. I really don't want to lose her but I don't know what to do. It gets me upset every time she tells me she hangs out with him at school, because it's the only place they hang out, but she'll ask him to stay afterschool with her to run, and I really don't like that, or things like that. What should I do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt wasn't her ex boyfriend, he was, and still is, just one of her friends, although he liked her and that's why he kissed her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Sounds as if she wishes to experiment with other guys, or perhaps wanted to do more with the ex-boyfriend.
Let her try it. Hang out with another girl for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): You are perfectly justified in your feelings about him... but the best you can do now is to trust your girl, that the relationship is strictly platonic, as it seems she's not cooperating with you on this, or attempting to compromise. It is unfair that she only laughs in your face when you express your concerns, but she's yours and I guess you have to go along with her or risk her storming out.
WOMEN.
-Tante Vic.
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