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writes:I am 15 years old and i guess girls find me weird becasue i am so shy, I heard that is one of the biggest turn offs for women. ok I'm in class right and their are these boys and these girls who piss me off so much. One of the girls happens to be the one girl I used to have a crush on. I'm finding it easier to get over her because she is acting like a child. I'm not doing anything wrong and they are just taking paper and throwing at each other in class. They take hand sanitizer and rub it into the paper and throw it also. The teacher is so oblivious to everything. I'm like stuck in the middle of it. Do you think I am the only one who thinks that these kids are acting like 2 year olds. I mean i'm just trying to pay attention in class and they are goofing off playing with their cell phones and throwing paper at each other. Do you think it is weird that i don't like this kinda of stuff, I think it is rather annoying and everyone else thinks it's so funny. Why is that, I guess that's is what makes me weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): well, i was one of the shy quiet girls, not the popular big boob ones. i was not really, really smart, i am guessing that i only found my ninch later on in life.
well, twenty years later, i am somewhat successful, got a legal degree, 3 homes, married, good quality friends. Please note i am not bragging, what i am saying is that there is a time & place for everything. if you feel childish one day, indulge yourself. if you want to concentrate on your studies, please do so. you will reap the benefits later on. just don't be too serious and learn to laugh, at yourslef and others (jokes) as well. just try to maintain a balance. i know I do. i have a wicked (lovable) sense of humour, take my legal job very seriously, am a director of a non profit organisation. if you asked me 20 years ago what I wanted, i would not have known. The "in crowd" is not always the best crowd. and i am trying to teach my kids the same as well.
well, from one previously very shy, insecure, pimpefaced teenager to you, a somewhat quiet, shy guy, remember this. Your class mates WILL REMEMBER YOU. And in the years that come it will count, & it would be fond memories. Also remember in the next few years more important stuff will be happening in your life, you will fall in love, out of love, in lust, find your perfect vocation and just live life. and what a life it will be. there is nothing wrong in being different.
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (15 April 2009):
Well Im 17.
and i was exactly the same as those "animals" two years back and do you now what?
I regret ever messing around in class.
because if i didnt i would now much more than i do know and i would have maybe gotten myself better grades.
and im sure that becos i messed around no-one really has respect for me.
i think you sound like a very responisble guy.
a proper gentlemen.
youll find your lucky girl.
it isnt weird at all.
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): I always go for quiet guys rather than the loud ones. Always have since i was 11. Why do i like shy guys? they are more responsible, more caring, nicer, understanding and smarter. These are the people that bring the big bucks home to a caring and loving family. I'm only 19 now but the quieter guys are always the best. Get yourself a quiet girlfriend. You might be quiet to others, but you can open up to each other and all that conversation you miss out on with everyone else, you get with eachother. That builds your relationship stronger. Right now its best to concentrate on studies, any girlfriend you get in high school will move on eventually anyway, go to university, you will find life long friend there!
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (14 April 2009):
 seriously! they're acting like children! just ignore them... or if they're distracting you, ask to have your seat moved.
also... i definitely don't get turned off by shy guys; i think it's cute! and mysterious. they seem so observeant and i always wonder what they're thinking... :)
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 You know who else was “weird” like you are? Bill Gates, and just about every other Fortune 500 CEO you can mention.
Seriously, just ignore them. In time you will be sitting behind an office desk and they will be sitting in front of you hoping for a job. On that day, you can wad up a piece of paper and toss it at them. ;) Keep your nose to the grind stone and you will be fine. Oh, and if you can get transferred into your schools Gifted/Advanced classes, do it.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (14 April 2009):
 No it's their behaviour that is weird, but the thing is keep at your education and ignore these idiots, you'll see them on here quite often in the teen pregnancy section.
By knuckling down and getting on with your education you can get the qualifications you need to get to Uni, get a decent job and enjoy looking down on these kids while they are still in McDonald's (working or eating) with several children, each to a different father.
Just because you might not fit in now, look to the future most of my adult friends and I were just like you at school (probably geekier to be honest) but we are all in careers we have always wanted, some have children (all married and planned) and all having much more fun than the fools who used to piss around in class, who are now in low paid jobs and living in slums.
Don't ever change, enjoy your youth and get the best education you can, it really will pay off in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): no its caled that ou atually want to learn and your responsible i hate guys that mess around all the time their jsut childish
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reader, justme..x +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Hey :)Aww, no you're not weird! You're just more mature than the others, and that's no bad thing. A lot of girls like shy guys anyway. It isn't a turn-off unless you start talking to them in these lessons as if they're pathetic and below you etc, and it deosn't sound like you'd do that if you don't mind my saying so!You're probably not the only one that finds it childish and annoying, but like you, they just try and put up with it.Hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): They call you weird, I call you responsible. Sounds like you're growing up and they aren't. Good for you for trying to get something out of the class instead of wasting your (and others') time.
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