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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 months now. We've have a somewhat rocky relationship. I caught him cheating on me with his ex 4 months into our relationship. However, he sincerely apologized and begged for another chance, so since then we've been trying to work things out. We fight a lot...mainly because we are both so much alike. Our personalities are so similar and often clash. and we both have tempers and we are both very stubborn. We're just so alike. Well anyways, my question is about him smoking weed and me not agreeing with it. I've never smoked weed, not even cigarettes. I'm 22, and i go out and drink often with my friends..even him and his friends. It came to my attention about 2 months ago that he was smoking weed after i found a pipe in his apartment. He lied to me about it for a while but eventually i got him to admit it. He told me he only does it occasionally. And we agreed that everytime he smokes weed, he would tell me. And he has done so. For the past month or so, he has told me everytime he was about to smoked or did smoke. My problem is, ever since he became honest about it, it seems like he smokes all the time. I got very upset lastnight for him smoking because for the past couple weeks he's been doing it very often. We got in a fight, our tempers flared and i left crying. This morning he called me and we started arguing because i told him if he cared about me he wouldnt do it. But he told me if i care so much about him smoking weed then im not the right person and i basically took that as him breaking up with me.Is this something I should let ruin our relationship? Or is this something I should not care so much about? All of his friends smoke weed, even his own Dad (who is a drug addict, and offers my boyfriend weed all the time).I love my boyfriend so much and i dont want to lose him. But i feel like he doesn't care enough about me and cares more about his weed.Should I stay with him? or leave for good?
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reader, thetruthhurts  +, writes (24 December 2009):
first thing if a guy cheats u call it off no questions asked second weed ill vouch with the last guy who commented isnt that bad it but if u dont like it and u want him to quit and he doesnt then u shouldnt put up with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): u should have called it off when he cheated. now i used to smoke ALOT of weed untill a girl who i love with all my heart came into my life and i just found that weed was unecissary to make me feel happy. i want to make this statement clear tho, NOT everyone who does drugs are bad, thats all info that the gov gives u they paint a picture that weed is bad its really not. all my friends smoke weed and there the nicest ppl that ull ever meet and there not screw ups matter of fact my dads friend is a docter and a good one too he tokes up he has a happy family high paying job and isnt a screw up. now about ur b-f he cheats game over no questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): u should have called it off when he cheated. now i used to smoke ALOT of weed untill a girl who i love with all my heart came into my life and i just found that weed was unnecessary to make me feel happy. i want to make this statement clear though, NOT everyone who does drugs are bad, thats all info that the gov gives u they paint a picture that weed is bad its really not. all my friends smoke weed and there the nicest ppl that ull ever meet and they're not screw ups matter of fact my dads friend is a docter and a good one too he tokes up he has a happy family high paying job and isnt a screw up. now about ur b-f he cheats game over no questions.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 December 2009):
You're getting into a very messy world with this guy. His father is an addict, your boyfriend is a druggie and a cheat. He values wasting his life more than doing something with it. If you stay, you will be hurt, you'll be unhappy, there is more of a chance he will have a psychotic episode, if you want kids you'll find it harder to conceive. Bluntly, there is someone else out there who can offer you more. Choose between a future with a druggie cheat, or a future with someone else.
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