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writes:I am feeling very lost and confused. I've been on 4 dates with this guy and it was going so well, we messaged a few times a day for about a month and for the last week he's been taking ages to reply (as in 24 hours for a message when it normally would be an hour) he hasn't replied to my message since Thursday and it's now Sunday, I don't understand why he has suddenly become less friendly and I just wish things could be back to how they were as we got on so well. Should I message him asking whats wrong? Or should I move on? Any help would be most appreciated xxx
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 I fully agree with Ciar.
Do NOT contact him.
I seriously doubt YOU did anything "wrong" on your dates. It CAN be that he is dating several women and thus have less time. Or he is not as interested as you are. Or he is trying to not seem to keen. Or he is a asshat who likes playing games. It's really impossible to tell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2016): Do NOT contact him. The way you have to look at it is, if he really was interested he'd be all over you, and from what you've told us he isn't. So why bother?!
Why waste your time on someone who doesn't really care? You deserve a man that makes a huge effort, ESPECIALLY in the early stages of dating when that sort of thing is the most important.
Don't waste your time, move on!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 Asking what's wrong reeks of desperation. It tells him you have no other options and so little going on in your life that you are painfully aware of the passage of time since you last spoke. Plus it's also negative.
Leave it be and move on. If you do hear from him be pleasant and upbeat but not overly excited to hear from him. Act as though you've been so busy doing great things that you hardly noticed his absence. If he seems interested and you still are you can let him court you again. Don't just pick up where you left off.
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reader, Slippers +, writes (21 March 2016):
If he doesn't see what wonderful girl you are .. cut him loose .. let hin go .. Thursday to Sunday speaks volumes .. since our phones are always within reach of us and it takes a minute or two to text then I would say he wasn't as keen as you were .. so you know what .. His loss ... sweetie ..
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reader, junebug30 +, writes (21 March 2016):
I'm dealing with the same issues.....Our conversations were wonderful at first and it felt like he was so eager to talk with me and then out of the blue they slowly faded and he doesn't contact me as much sometimes not at all. WHY DO GUYS DO THIS????
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