I don't know why he would want to date me

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I met this guy through mutual friends. His friend is marrying my friend. He's not my type physically, but I'm his type. We've met up a couple time and text occasionally. We also both coincidentally work at the same company (but in different departments). Surprisingly we have a lot in common, especially our regarding our issues with our mothers. That was something we bonded over. Even though he's not physically my type, I can't deny that he's attractive, and very kind and sweet. They have been pushing him really hard to me leading up towards their wedding. They say he likes me and wants to get to know me more, but I have some hesitations. He's divorced (no kids) and I've never been married. He and his ex wife are still on speaking and friendly terms, even though i was told she was not very nice to him during their relationship. My dating life has actually been pretty awful. I have never been in a full fledged relationship, and the closest thing I came to one was an abusive one. That stems from my history of emotional and verbal abuse from my mom. He acted the same way as my mom did, so I thought it was normal until my college roommates pointed out his behavior. When I ended things, he went nuts and started stalking an harassing me. That traumatized me, and I swore off dating for a long time after that. Ive been working with a therapist on my issues. On top of that, I also think he's out of my league. He's super smart (ivy league educated, pursuing higher education, etc...) and I am nowhere near as smart, successful, or as attractive as his exes. His ex wife is super pretty and successful. I don't understand why he'd even like me in the first place. He could find someone much more attractive, smarter, and successful than me. I just don't feel like I could offer him anything he didn't already have with his ex wife.

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