A
female
age
30-35,
*hinksss
writes:So here's my problem, 5 months ago I met this guy (GUY B) at work and at first I didn't really get attracted to him. But after like 2 weeks of working with him I got attracted with his physical appearance and personally I usually get attracted to guys' physical appearances but that's just about it and when the guy starts liking me I tend to turn away from them like it's a turnoff for me because I am committed with GUY A. That time Guy A and me are in our 1 year and 9 months of relationship. Guy B became my friend and we just hang out with our friends, drink coffee and stuff like that. I liked him a lot because he is very hardworking, very positive, very attractive, and I like the way he thinks and he cheers me up all the time. I never showed him any of my interest like I played very well as if he's really just a friend to me. We walked a lot for hours and ate in restaurants but we never ever talked about us. He never told me anything about liking me also we had no clue that we liked each other because we are both from different countries and we're not really aware about each others cultures. My relationship with guy A hasn't been that happy for me. The spark of our relationship only lasted for like 6 months and then he started changing like playing online games forever, sleeping forever and just taking me for granted. So I tried everything I can to make our relationship work and he himself says that he's just really comfortable that I will never leave him even if I break up with him he knows I'm coming back to him. Of course, I'm hurt but it's the truth. Guy A is always there when I need him, more of emergencies but he's never there to walk with me, just do random things together and the sweet stuff- he just likes to play the computer all the time. I had to beg him just so he would make love with me, even if I do he still wouldn't and just continue playing.. stuff like that.He is also a really nice guy like personally. He would not cause any physical harm to me or anything of some sort like I know he cares for me deep inside and I know that he loves me.So, back to GUY B. Guy B has a girlfriend also back in his country and when we got started in showing our feelings to each other when we can't hold it anymore- to make long story short- I fell out of love with my boyfriend and he also fell out of love with his girlfriend. There was this party we both got drunk and finally told each other that we liked each other a lot and just burst all the feelings that we kept for a few months. We made out. It was really good for me because he did all the things I wanted a guy to do when making out with me. All the sweet things I can imagine and since that night we see each other every night for hours and just lie on the grass watch the stars.. wait for the sunrise.. walk for hours and make out for hours as well. We only got together for 10 days and those 10 days were really perfect for me, moments that I can only see in movies- and it happened to me. Everything felt really magical. The feelings I felt with him was nothing compare to what I felt for GUY A during our first couple of months.The thing is that I don't know what to do. I can't do this longer because I can't cheat anymore. Me and GUY B are still talking online since he already went home to his country but we have high hopes of seeing each other after 2 years or something. Like a fairytale! LOL But GUY A is still here.. Still the same person, I can't leave him because I love him also what I don't know is that is it because we've been together longer or something? Like I accept his whole personality everything about him and he does for me also. But for GUY B I really like him a lot but we've known each other for only 5 months but what's stopping me is what I felt for him when we were together was really magical. Like literally not feeling hunger and sleepiness and all that. I don't know what to do.. I don't know which one to choose.. :((
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reader, rivi +, writes (31 October 2010):
Maybe you need to look for Guy C .
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reader, chinksss +, writes (31 October 2010):
chinksss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer.
I don't really mind sex right now. What I want to know is which one do I really love? Guy B and I are still talking online everyday and he keeps saying he has high hopes and will wait until the time we see each other again and stuff.
I know I also feel something for Guy A but I keep thinking that is it just our long relationship that made me feel like that for him.. I'm thinking what if I met both of them at the same time.. which one will I go for? :((
I don't know.. I'm miserable
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reader, rivi +, writes (28 October 2010):
Get real : guy B is in a sense a fantasy guy : he is abroad for one thing and you can''t get into his pants except in your dreams.
Guy A is around and available for sex and companionship.
FORGET guy B while you try and make a go of it with A.
If you can't get back into a loving [ and sexy ] relationship with A then for both your sakes, split - but don't expect B to come to the rescue.
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