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writes:Im so stressed! Please help.. Ok so I have a friend who I've been knowing for about 5 years. About a year ago she moved to Atlanta Georgia from Los Angeles which is where I live and where we met because we used to work together at the mall when we were in high school. Now she recently got married and I'm so happy for her although it was very spontaneous of her because shes only known him for 2 months....well getting to the point...she gave her husbands friend my phone so that I can get to know him because she felt like there was potential for us to date in the future... So I start talking to the guy and I really start liking him and after 2 weeks of constant phone conversations he offers to buy me a plane ticket to come visit my him and my high school friend! And I say ok..so after he bought my ticket We had disagreements on where I was going to stay.he wanted me to stay at his place with his family.(mom dad and bro) my friend wanted us to stay with her and her husband. I wanted a hotel!!! So after long negotiations I decided I was getting a hotel but I wanted to talk to his mother js n case I had to stay at his place with his family because that is her home and I wanted to b respectful.. Now after him telling me literally 100 times his family would be ok with me staying there after speaking with his mother it was a different story. She was a really sweet lady but she basically said there wasn't enough room for me at their place! I was so upset with him! Although I wanted a hotel from the beginning I jus felt so disappointed in him . He saud she was ok with me staying there but after speaking with his father she changed her mind which is totally fine with me but it was just the principal of the situation. I'm traveling so far and I have to depend on you and u couldn't come through for me. Now I'm hesitate on whether to go because I'm traveling so far and I feel like I have to have someone to depend on and Idk if he will b there. I'm kinda scared. I never traveled this far by myself and all I no is my friend in that city. Like what if something else happens like that where he says he can do something and can't come through with it! Please help or give me advice! My flight leaves in 2 weeks and this is stressing me out because I really like him. He already said he loved me after only 3 weeks of talking.. I just want to make good decisionBecause I do believe him and I can have a future.. Reply to this Question
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (2 November 2010):
 You've only been talking to this guy for three weeks. You don't really know him. Keep that in mind. It's one thing to say you love someone when you've never met and you can build a fantasy in your mind, and another thing totally when you actually meet in person.
With that said, I'd stay in a hotel. Have fun, but always have a safe place you can go to if things don't work out. He can always come to see you at the hotel or you can go to his house if things are going okay.
Atlanta is a lovely and fun city, so go, have fun, and see the sights!
Good luck.
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