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writes: I am so lost right now i don't know how to begin i am making such a mess of my life i am unemplyed i am messing things up with my boyfriend,the only man who has ever been loving i cause arguements everyday now he says he is sick of me an he is not sure if he loves me anymore,who can blame him whats wrong with me? am scared. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): i have this at the moment i am very stressed out due to personnal issues and i take it out on my boyfriend which i dont mean to, now he says i am always on at him not my old self and it has broke us apart. We are still friends but i still love him so dearly and it hurt when i see him look at other woman. What do i do we get on well now i want to ask him out again but i am scared incase he says no but i am also worried if i dont ask him something that could make me happy again wont happen
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 When things are down in one part of our lives the other areas of our life suffer, your unemployed and probably feeling down about not having a job or income and therefore you are making your boyfriend suffer for your feeling that everything is messed up and going wrong.
I would talk to him and just be straight on how you are feeling and try to sort yourself out, some people feel it's easy to get a job but it's not always that easy and each turn down knocks your confidence abit more.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Keeley +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Hiya
There is nothing wrong with you at the moment you may feel a little depressed cos things are not going the way you would like them too. But don't worry try and think positive and how things were before you was unhappy hold onto those thoughs and use them t get you through each day. Take things slowly ad discuss with your partner your feelings as it is affecting him too and you dont want to fall out over something he could help you resolve.
Be stong at any rejections you have and turn it on his head and make it a positive and constructive critisim for you to take on board and help rebuild your confidence.
Remember one day at a time a talk to your partner get him to help you rebuild your inner strength and remain positive always. We all get a little scared at the unknown but trust your inner strength to help you through this.
Good luck and let me know how your doing in a while I know you can do it after all you told us that something is going wrong in your life now use the tools to get he solution.
Much love
Keeley
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Hi dearie,
There is nothing wrong with u. You are just passing through a phase right now when things seem difficult. that happens alot with life and u shouldnt blame yourself for everything. A couple of years ago i was in your shoes. I had no job, my fiancee was living a double life and was actually a married man. what i did was analyse my life and decided to get rid of all negatives obstacles and intoduce the positive. I am presently in research and engaged to the most caring man. u see how fate and destiny changes with a little self-belief and patience all will be well i promise.
Something i think u should do is that u should learn to love yourself and work hard to tackle issues by learning from mistakes. No one is perfect i can assure u but there is always someone out there who will be willing to love us and stay with us despite the imperfections. Think about what issues causes the arguments and how u can tackle them. Keep applying for a job, redesign your cv if u have to and read about interviews techniques. u can get theses from the web.
Go out with friends perhaps on a girls outings. enjoy yourself. join clubs, any group that will help u.Could be a charity club?
Please let us know how u are doing. Take care dear and all the best.
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