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writes:For about 6 months I have been chating to a guy I met online. We have talked on line through msn instant messenger as well as through our phones. I am 17 and he is 19. I have also seen him on web cam so I KNOW he isn't some old pedaphile. We have become really close, like really good friends and he calls or messages me at least once a day. We both have deeper feelings for each other and we would really really like to meet up face to face even if it is just as friends.But the probelm is we both live at least a 2 days drive away from each other. I would go down to visit him but my parents are really strict and protective of me. they are very anti technology and would totaly freak out if they knew I had been talking to someone I dont know on the net.I undersdtand the reasons they worry but I have so much trust in this guy and i think they should too.my question is what should i do? i want to go see him but dont know how to deal with my parents. telling them about the whole situatio nwould be a risky and awakward option which I really don't want to do. But on the other hand i cant lie and go behind there backs!so confused. please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006): Well first of all it is not really a good idea to meet with someone from the internet. You are aware of the dangers and I hope you understand why your parents would be concerned about it. Ask yourself if it's really worth you traveling so far for this person. And if you truly believe that he's worth it then go for it! Be cautious though. And yes,I have met up with people from the internet and I'm still here so...You should be ok. Not everyone has bad intentions and hidden agendas. You'll be fine. I hope so anyway. I urge you to tell your parents (or someone responsible who you trust)before you go though and maybe get someone to go with you, you never know what might happen.Good luck.
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reader, Little Shyla D +, writes (1 October 2006):
I would wait until I was 18 and meet him half way with a friend.
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reader, Toria +, writes (30 September 2006):
 I agree with Phoebe avoid the information that he is from the internet until they have a chance to get to know him as a person not just a person from offline.
I know you are aware of the worries with meeting someone offline and how easy it is to put yourself into a situation you are uncomfortable with, I would take someone you know and trust with you and also leave an address and contact method with your parents as a safety net just to be sure.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (30 September 2006):
 Hey,
well - i'm glad I don't have to point out to you the dangers of meeting someone online. And I'm also glad you don't want to sneak off behind your parents' backs. I think the best bet (though not the easiest option) would be to talk to your parents. I know this is very anti-advice-colomist but I would tell a tiny white lie to your parents and don't tell them that you met him on the net just yet. Then when they've met him for themselves and approve, you can tell them the truth and tell them they said for themselves that he was ok.
I'm afraid there is no easy way out of this one.
Hope it all goes well,
Phoebe xxxxx
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