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writes: My boyfriend and I broke up four months ago, because he was unhappy and met someone else. I have since moved on and started dating someone over the last two weeks. Today, my ex contacted me and said that he wanted to try to get back together. And I do still love him and tought we had a perfect relationship until he broke up with me. But the guy I'm dating now is also great, and I could see a long term relationship developing. I feel like either choice I make, I'll be left wondering "what if..." I don't know if I should break off something that could be really great to be with someone who left me before, or stick with the guy I'm now dating and wonder "what if" about my ex...?Sigh. I'm confused.
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reader, Jettab1 +, writes (17 April 2006):
I am in the same situation you are in but worse. I am engaged to be married in 3 months to my fiancee, but still have recurrent feelings for an ex that I dated for 41/2 years. I am regretting now what I should have done before because the stakes are much higher. If you honestly think that your ex is completely in love with you and regrets what happened before and it WOULD NOT happen again, I would give him another chance. If it doesn't work, then it's done and no regrets. Be honest with your current partner. If it's wrong with your ex you will 100% be sure and give all the love you have to someone else. If you are caught in the what if stage.....you could be there for years in an unsure position.
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reader, Myobi +, writes (17 April 2006):
 What your going through is tough and I understand your confusment, but the way you need to think about it is if your ex-boyfriend can dump you for another girl once, what's to say he wont do it again in a few months time if you get back with him? If the guy your with now is great and makes you happy then stick with him. It's your ex's loss, you're better than that, and dumping your boyfriend and getting back with your ex is just whet he wants. Just becuase now he's realised he made a mistake by losing you doesn't mean he can get you back so easy, it was his desision and he decided to hurt you. Personally I say stick with the boyfriend and tell your ex where to go! Take Care x
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