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*heerwhore23
writes:my boyfriend keeps telling me and everyone else how he's so in love with me and stuff but for some reason i dont believe it...i love him more than anything and i would do anything for him..he has anxiety which causes him to have mild depression sometimes and i understand that...i get that sometimes he really cant do anything about it but i feel like i just cant make him happy..when we're not fighting everything is perfect like nothing could ever go wrong with us but lately we've been fighting sooo much over the stupidest reasons!!! i tried to break up with him because im just so tired of the fighting but when i went over to his house to get my stuff back i just couldnt even think about how my life would be without him...i dont know what to do with our relationship anymore..is it over and i just dont want to believe it or is this something we can fix? Reply to this Question
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reader, sexystar +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I fight with my boyfriend every 5 minutes and i tell you is not a way of living. if you are sure he is the one with the issues, talk to him into seeking help, in my case my boyfriend swears its me the one with the problems i went to the psychologist and im perfectly fine, my boyfriend is a manipulator, and tends to depress often besides he has anger management problems, but he doesnt see, usually they dont see it, if you really love him and want to give it a try, help him find help therapy should help you guys solve most of the issues, communicate nicely, and if it doesnt work or doesnt want the help then leave or you will waste time and be miserable and at the end you will still not and up with him…and could damage you to a dangerous point. my Dr, told me when this situations happen either we turn like them and have huge problems that lead to a breakup or we loose our self respect, have low self esteem and more… take care… dont let your feelings get in the way of whats best for you… wish you luck!
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reader, xgod +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Two choices... Stay or leave.If you stay, you must learn that we who are afflicted with depression and anxiety can sometimes just need time alone with no one bothering us. We sometimes want someone to just "BE" present and yet remain silent while sharing their presence with us.Your boyfriend gets annoyed when you bother him when he is in a bad mood. It happens to all of us. When you sense he is depressed, try ust being there with him but saying nothing more than a simple "I'm here." or "I'll be right here for you." which will boost his confidence.If you leave him, do it quickly and make sure he knows that he is not the issue. You do not want a depressed, anxiety-filled ex who will probably end up clinging no matter what you do. Perhaps just take a break - not break up - just let him have some time to deal with what is in his own mind and tell him to call any time he needs you.This will allow you to focus on your own life and other friendships/family yet still check in with him on occasion (a text or email to say hi or find out how he is doing with his own personal demons)...Your call...
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