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anonymous
writes:Theres this guy who I really like, and we act like we're a couple when we do see each other, but he lives 3 hours away. I recently stayed for a few days, and fell in love with him even more. He initiated everything, and why would he be the one hugging, kissing, holding my hand, snuggling up to me if he didn't want a relationship? I've spoken to my friends about the situation, and they all think I should tell him how I feel and ask him what's going on. The thing is I'm petrified. I'm scared that things will change when I tell him, that we'll be less flirty with texts or over instant messenger, when we do meet up he'll act differently, all because he knows my feelings for him.I just have a feeling I know he's going to say about the distance, and that'd be why we wouldn't be able to have a relationship. Me being me, I'd agree with him, just because I'd feel like I was being too pushy or feel like I was begging him to consider it if I didn't. I just feel like the guy is the kind of person who doesn't do long distance relationships.Me and my ex boyfriend broke up because distance, so I have had experience with it. However, now I can drive and I'd be more than willing to drive up every week or two to see him, I'd feel he was worth it. I'm pretty negative about the whole situation, but my friends tell me to be positive, and that I could be wrong and that we could end up going out, but I just have a feeling it won't be and that it will confirm all my feelings and it'll make me even more upset. Although I guess it's best to know than be in my own 'fantasy' I guess.I don't know what to do, shall I tell him? Does he like me? How could I put it? What do you all think about the whole thing? I'm just so confused right now.
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reader, MichaelS2 +, writes (4 January 2009):
 You being nervous is completely normal!It's what guys go through all the time when they ask a woman out.
I'm sure he has feelings for you if he initiated everything!He may even already think your a couple!It would be best if you sat down and talked.Distance can be a problem but if you think it's worth it,than it's worth talking to him!
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reader, loveuxoxo +, writes (4 January 2009):
 i know how you feel. and i really think you should tell him take a risk. and then u will know. and the distance really isnt that far away. and the way u could tell him is is be like can i tell you somethng? and he will be like yeah then say i dont know how you feel but i like you. and see what he says. and if he says he doesnt feel that way then stay strong and be like thats okay. but he would be crazy not to. but at least you will know. and it wont be a what if question. so i say you take a risk. and maybe tell him when your with a friend so they can be there for you with whatever happends. good luck! i hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2009): i think you should tell him how your feeling..i agree with your friends!!!
and the way your describing him it sounds like he likes you too.. hes probly too scared to tell you, so you take the big step
im the same way with this grl i like too
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