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writes:Well where to start, first of all my name is "Boggie" i live in new york Im in college for audio engineering and i will begraduating in the summer. I have a part time job working to makeenough money to pay for bills and basically im surfing the wave herein NYC with my parents until my career takes off.heres the deal. back in august i met this girl called "venus" onthe internet. At first i didnt like her because my brother had died injune and i was a real jerk and i didnt wanna get attached to a girl.After a while i started liking her more and more. We started talkingevery day and my feelings started to grow. I missed her when she didntcall , i wanted to talk hours with her and i didnt want it to end. Idont know if i made the mistake of taking things too quick but whenshe told me she loved me i reciprocated. Now i truly believe i loveher and i cant stand not hearing from her. The problem is that shelives in virginia a 5 hour drive from me which isnt too bad but theproblem is that she says shes moving out of Virginia this summer andshe wants to go to California. I live in New york and my career ishere even though i want to get out of this city for a while i knowthat i have a better chance of succeeding here in new york and i justdont know if i want to move to cali or texas which are her 2 options.I dont want to lose her and she says she doesnt want to move to NYC. Idont want to think i wasted all my time just talking to a girl imnever gonna meet but at the same time i dont know if its worth it.Shes coming here for 2 weeks in july... but she truly believes NYCisnt for her. I cant stop her from being happy but i dont want to loseher. I dont know whether to stay in contact with her or cut her off soshe can forget me and we could both be happy. I dont know what to sayand i dont know if things will ever get really serious between us buti want to give it a shot.I dont know what to do anymore and i dont want to lose her, i justwant to make it work.Im sorry for the long email but in need of helpThanks !!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): dont believe the reader below thats not true i moved to a city 5 hours away to be with my current ex(i still love him and want to be with him)...i dont regret it at all but if i didnt move that doesnt mean i loved him any less.what if she said the same thing about you oh you dont love me because you didnt move to california with me.i do think that long distance relationships are hard though.so if yall want to make it work follow your heart.your career can be completed anywhere but true love is worth that risk.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 If you want to know if a girl really loves you , she will come to you where ever you are.If she does not , it means you are not that high on her list.If she does not want to come to your place, she is not the one for you.Will you love someone who love you less?
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Aww :(Well if i was you i really wouldn't cut her off because it will just confuse you both and leave scars on your hearts.Maybe you should just keep talking to her on the phone and over the net until she goes to NYC in July to meet you?And i don't want to put you down in any way but when you first meet it might not be that same, you may even find you only like each other as friends and it's best off that way.If i was you i'd wait until you see each other face to face and see what happens..if you fall madly in love with each other and think you need to be together then even long distance relationships can work.You can still visit each other at times and stuff right?And eventually when you can move on from the career you have now and stuff you could get a place together or something, and nagotiate on where to move to..because after all you both need to be happy in the relationship for it to work.Just make sure you do whats best for you and what your heart wants.Follow your heart..we can work on the rest later :]Feel free to contact meAnd good luck!~Krissy [x]
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