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writes:Hey, my ex and i broke up on valentines with me, we decided to take a break a couple of weeks back, in which we siad we would see anyone else. During the break she cheated on me with 3 guys, i was devestated as i loved her with all my heart. Yet she came back and asked me for my forgiveness and to take her back, the next day i go and see her she says she needs to be single and we break up. A couple of days later i receive a txt msg saying i was right and that she was tired of mkaing decisions for other ppl and that she wanted to us to get back together, foolishly i said yes. I was very carefull this time knowing very well she could hurt me again, a week gone by she starts opening up to me, and i always ask her if everytign is ok, and everything was. We than spent a weekend at her country house everything seemed fine and she opened up even more. The day after she started to have a bad feeling and she kept it to herself, and on valentines i could feel that she was distant and we ended up breaking up. I dont know what to do anymore and i still do have strong feelings for her what do i do to get her back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Do not under any circumstances take her back! You say you love her, but you probably love the person she once was. I don't think you would fall in love with someone who was jerky enough to cheat on you and break your heart multiple times. This girl is a different person, one you do not (and should not) love. You need to have the respect for yourself to ignore your feelings and find someone who will be good to you.
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reader, Elle254  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 well i think that you should not take her back. Firstly i think if she loves you as much as you love her then she will realise that you are an important part of her. I also think that if you wait a bit, which would be hard, then it would be worth a wait im sure that she loves you alot.If she does not come back then im sure you would understand the result. good luck xxx
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 You don't do anything to get her back. You go live your life and let her figure out what it is she wants in life. Break complete contact with her. If she comes crawling on her hands in knees, don't take her back. Tell her you already gave her one too many chances already. You need to break this cycle. Once she realizes you don't need her, she may come to her senses. But I'd give her plenty of time to stew . . . like 6 months. Maybe by then you'll find someone who isn't playing games.
Good luck!
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