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writes:so long story short im trying to figure out what my gf wants in bed.. she isnt conventional in that she trys to appear very proper like she isnt kinky.. the thing is that when she has been more open with me she has mentioned she loves to be "*ucked really hard and loves it when i take control and *uck her however i want".. she seems to enjoy being held down and causing pain... nothing bad but a little pinch here and there and enjoys the same to be done to her and has even gone as far as asking me to slap her on occasion which i have not done.. however this is at odds with the fact that often i will do somthing like move her on the bed because her head is basically banging on that board and she will get really angry and tell me not to man handle her and will often get angry when i do things she will usually enjoy. its giving me whiplash and i honestly dont know who to expect in bed at night.. i would usually not ask a sexual question like this one but its kind of messing with my game because im not really sure what she wants and everytime i ask her she gives the same answer which is truely not helpful.is this simply because she is secretly really kinky but doesnt want me to see her as "slutty" or let me see that side to her? whats your opinion on what she wants from me!? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): 1. Get her to agree on a "safe word" before you go any farther. Google the term if you don't know what I am talking about. 2. Experiment. 3. Don't let her get angry at you for not reading her mind. She is the one who is giving you conflicting feedback. I'm sure the differences with this stuff are crystal clear to her - because she can read her mind. You can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): She might be a bit embarrassed and unsure of how you'd react to what she really wants. Perhaps if you share one of your fantasies with her, she might feel more comftable in telling you exactly what she wants.
Also, you could always buy a sex card game, I have one that has a bunch of positions and things like 'S+M', Bondage and Spanking cards to incorporate into the positions. You could always buy a pack and ask her to select what she'd like to do. This might make it more clear to you what she wants. Hope this helped!
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